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Why do orgasms make me cry?

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Question - (11 February 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 11 August 2010)
A female United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

This is gonna sound weird and I hope I can put it into the right words but basically every time I have an orgasm, I cry afterwards. It's so weird. Please don't think my boyfriend is doing something I don't like or I feel bad or guilty because I don't. It's not like I feel ashamed or bad and feel so bad that after a while I begin to cry, it's like straight away I just start crying even though I feel fine and perfectly happy. But it's not happy tears either. It's just... tears... out of nowhere... for absolutely no reason other than some kind of emotional release? It happens when I'm with my boyfriend but also when I masturbate, but it really isn't for a reason.

My friend thought it might be that I might be feeling guilty or dirty and ashamed but she's not understanding what I mean because I don't feel anything, I just get these tears out of nowhere and there's no logical reason for them. Is this in any way normal? Does it happen to anyone else?

thanks in advance.

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A female reader, Cute_Me  United States +, writes (11 August 2010):

I used to cry after sex with my ex. He was my ex when I had sex with him. Its like I so anxiously anticipated having sex with him and when its over I cry. I just thougt it was either guilt or me being over excited because he never disappointed me.

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A female reader, vivachacha United States +, writes (17 November 2009):

vivachacha agony auntI have been having this problem so I googled it just t see what would come up. I totally understand what you mean, however with me it's like I feel like I want it so bad I can't even function without it. I have to have it then it makes me sad. I don't have this problem with masturbation however

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States + , writes (12 February 2008):

TasteofIndia agony auntHey sweetness,

I have totally experiences this too. For me, if the sex is really great and really intense - to cry is just to get those emotions released. Or maybe I've been stressed all day and then I can just get it all out of my system. Or maybe I'm just so freakin' happy about the great sex we just had.

You're normal. As long as your boyfriend doesn't think that he did something wrong or hurt you, you are completely fine.

Have fun and keep tissues next to the bed!!

xx India

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008):

This has happened to me too, not when I have masterbated but after a virginal orgasm. I sobbed my heart out and to this day dont know why. It has to be a natural reaction, most probably to do with the sudden rush of hormones. Don't worry, enjoy and take care x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008):

It's the emotional high. :) Don't worry, it's happened to me too. Our bodies react differently to the stimulation and certain parts of our nervous systems react differently. Imagine being someone who LAUGHS after sex...How mortifying! As long as your boyfriend knows whats up, I'm sure it will all be okay! ^_^

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