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Why do men in their twenties date teenagers!?

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Question - (20 March 2011) 11 Answers - (Newest, 9 April 2012)
A female Australia age 22-25, anonymous writes:

In all honesty to men between the age of 22-26. Why would you date a girl who's 18 or 19? Surely at that age you would rather be looking to date someone who you might want a long term relationship with.

Is their an ulterior motive here, do you think younger girls are easier? Or do you honestly not see it as a problem and think that regardless of the age gap that it may work?

I'm simply curious because a lot of guys i meet are in that age group and when i tell them i'm 18 they don't seem put off, which sometimes find quite strange? I mean i wouldn't date a guy in his teens when i'm in my twenties!

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States + , writes (9 April 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntWhy do 52 year old women marry 38 year old men?

BECAUSE WE CAN!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2012):

Personally I don't see the problem here. I'm 25 and I look at girls who are 16 and up. There shouldn't be anything wrong with being friends with teenage girls if your a young adult. Maybe intimacy is illegal, but close friends?? I don't see anything wrong with a man in his twentys looking at or even becoming friends with girls 17 and up. Then again, I wish I was that age again, so that's another reason I believe it's okay.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011):

Have you ever seen an 18 year old in a bikini? That's the answer to your question.

It's very simple: because their bodies are damn near perfect. That's it.

You can keep on with all your psychological conspiracy theories if you want, but the simple truth is that we like them because their bodies are so frickin hot!!!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2011):

Are older man/younger woman relationships like this acceptable, or not? Society needs to make up its mind about this.

Women usually want to have it both ways. Women take the credit for their high maturity when they're happy about the relationship. But the same women still want to blame the evil men for taking advantage of them whenever things go sour.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway + , writes (6 May 2011):

chigirl agony auntIn other words, they are naive and will fall for anything, so easy to get hooked up with. For reference, 6 months is not long term, and if a man goes for teenage girls because of their looks.. then you know for sure it will never be long term.

My personal favourite: they can't get women their own age because women mature faster than men. Of course, not a rule without it's exceptions.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011):

I'm 28 years old, and having a hard time coming to grips with the idea that I'm too old to date teenage girls anymore.

That being said, I am dating a wonderful girl who's in her early 20's (so younger, but still age appropriate).

I think there is a false assumption that guys in their 20's want teenage girls for sex. This is simply not the case.

I had a very serious girl friend when I was in my mid 20's and she was in her late teens (over the age of legal consent). And we honestly waited over a year. In fact, fair to say "I" waited over a year, as was good to go within the first few months.

I also disagree with the assumption that the relationships can't be long term. I dated a girl just two years younger then me and that lasted 6 months. The next girl about 3 years younger lasted about 12 months. The next girl 5 years younger lasted roughly 18 months. The current girlfriend ~6 years younger is 2 years strong and still going.

A few reasons why I'm attracted to girls in their late teens / early twenties.

- Physically they are beautiful. An ugly teenager is at least as hot as the hottest 30 something.

- They are fun loving. I love to go to concerts, and stuff like that. They'll also play video games (older woman often times turn their nose up at them).

- They tend to be sexually inexperienced. I'd rather have a girlfriend that has had the same number (or less) partners as me. Girls my age have been around the block a few times.

- No kids or ex husbands. (as a rule).

- Not expecting kids. I'd love kids once I get the rest of my life together. If they aren't looking to start a family within the next 5 years, that's a plus.

- As the other poster said, girls want to be swept off their feet, and it's easier to do that to a teenage (or early 20 something) who's less jaded.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011):

For every man in his 20s willing to date 18-19yo girls, there are NUMEROUS 18-19yo girls willing to date him.

It's just evolution. No better, no worse.

Teenage girls make the most fertile mothers and men in their 20s make the most suitable fathers. Everything we still do in the modern world is rooted in the situation that our ancestors lived in.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011):

Im in a relationship with a guy who is 26 and im 19. Its the hardest relationship I have ever being in and most complicated. Not that he is married or got kids. I dont know why guys look for younger girls probably an ego boost for them and makes them feel good.

From my experience, I wouldnt go there if your thinking about it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011):

Why do men date individuals younger than them? Because women in their age group don't give them a chance.

Ask any women, what does she want? Someone who's 'mature'....which in practically every woman's words means "someone a little older than me".

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011):

I am 16 and I dated a 20 year old guy for 4 months, ya it didn't work out in the end but when we started dating I know he was in it for me, not what i could do for him. I think some guys do date younger girls to get it easier. And also i think guys in their 20s date teens because it makes them look like they are lucky to have a young fresh girl and no some chick the same age as them, yes it sounds like guys are pigs but they like to impress their friends. But when it really comes down to it most guys that are dating younger teens is because they really care for them.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011):

"I mean i wouldn't date a guy in his teens when i'm in my twenties!"

When women are young, they tend to date older. When women are old, they tend to date younger. They hardly ever go for the same age. Men recognize this and go older or younger, as necessary.

As for "ulterior motive", it's usually easier for a guy in his 20s to date a girl in the teens than it is for a guy in teens to date a girl in the teens. His experience gives he an advantage, since girls want to be "swept off their feet".

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