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writes:I have just broken up (6 weeks ago) with my gf of two years. She has a small daughter and really wanted to get married. My intentions were also to get married. But I always felt that she was not in love with me. For example not all that eager to see me or when she was out of town days would go before she would call and check in with me. These and other things kept me from marrying her and the need for more time. 5 months ago she told me she had lunch with her ex boyfriend because she misses his friendship and wants to collaborate on art work. She also started getting overly close to a male friend, asking him to babysit when she was out of town and this guy would stay in the same hotel room with her and her daughter. I was also not comfortable with this, and voiced my concern, but she dismissed my concerns citing that they are just friends. A few days after I broke up with her she is in an intense relationship with the same guy friend and he practiclly lives there. I know they are a couple as I have seen them hand in hand and kissing.I know I had to move on mostly because I could not trust her knowing she has been in myriad of relationships all of them started before she had end the other. She was not marriage material.My question is: why do I feel hurt seeing her with another guy when I am the one that ended the relationship? Why is it so hard to forget her and move on with my life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): Thank you for your supportive words. I have determined that she is actually a sever case of love addict. I know beyond the shadow of a doubt that I can never be in a relationship with her. It is still hard to concentrate on myself and not her and move on. I am trying though.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 October 2010):
 Its hard for you to see her with someone else because you loved her and you only broke up with her because you did'nt trust her 100% this is completely natural, and she moved on very fast so of course this is going to hurt you and you were probably right not to trust this woman as sharing a hotel room is a bit much so it looks like you may have had a lucky escape. Just concentrate on yourself for now yes it will hurt and take time but go out with friends and socialize and maybe start a new hobby to get you out and about, it wont be long until you are happy within yourself.
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reader, yaytentacles +, writes (6 October 2010):
 Well, obviously you still like/love her a lot. The fact that she didn't reciprocate those feelings still gets to you, especially seeing her with another man. Trust me, a lot of break ups end up like this. I know it sounds cliche, but time heals all wounds. Eventually you will get over her, and find someone worthy of your affections.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): maybe you still like her or you havent adjusted to it yet.
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