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30-35,
*lade4york
writes:Well I have gotten over this girl I liked for a long time. Right now I actually hate her, because of all the mean things she did to me. It was hard, but I had to do it. I dont even look at her anymore, I want her to know I don't like her. Quite honesty the thing I needed to do is distance myself from her, I deleted all the nice stuff i saud to her on myspace, i took her off my top, I didn't block her though.Right now my problem seems to be what she could of said to her friends. I tried to add 2 of her friends on facebook both denied me. All of her friends like hate me now, they talk behind my back, too. I guess my main question would really be out of all of this is why do I care so much about what other people think of me.These girls are the popular girls btw. What do you think I should do, do you think I should forget about these people, becasue they're not worth it? It seems to me that all the hate started when my feelings for that girl came out and her friends knew and she told her friends and probably made it a lot worse than what is really seemed to be. Is it really bad to like someone? This whole experience has left me bitter and I dont even know if I want a girl in my life at all. What do I do next?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (10 May 2009):
 I know at 13 popularity is big. In the long run though it means nothing. Be who you are. Be real. Stop wasting time "hating" another human being. Let it go.
Yes, she might say crap about you behind your back, yes her friends might do the same. Nothing you can do ro say will stop that. The less you put out of hostility the less you recieve. It's a karma thing.
You know the saying, do unto others?
Chalk this experience up to a learning experience, a lesson if you will.
People will see you for who you are or believe the gossip and miss out on getting to know you, their loss.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (10 May 2009):
 This is all part of the breaking up process, give it time and you will feel less bitter.
The reason you care about what people think is, pride, and the off chance that one day you may try to date one of these "popular" girls and you don't want your ex spoiling your chances.
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