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writes:Split with someone a couple of months ago, nothing major, had been together just over a year but kept arguing. Anyway we remained friends. We still see each other quite regularly and he would like to try again slowly, but i have stated i dont want that, as it didnt work before, i dont feel it will this time. He respects that and still wants to stay friends.What i want to ask really is, why is it guys seem to go out of their way to try to prove to you they aren't how they come across?My ex knows from what i said, that i dont want to be with guys that drink too much and like frequenting pubs, and tries saying he isn't into that anymore, he's grown out of it. It was just one of the reasons i ended it. yet as soon as my brother asks him out for a beer, he's there like a shot and says my bro nags him into it. And its only for a couple.What do you thnik that could be about?Why do guys try to behave how you want them to, yet know it wont work long term because they wont be able to keep it up? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (27 March 2008):
 Well I am a little less cynical than LazyGuy and think that Emily made some good points. Some guys are exactly like LazyGuy says but then again so are some females. I rather feel that you shouldnt hold this against him to be honest unless he was drinking to such an excess and so regularly that it effected your relationship and/or his treatment of you; unless that was the case I think you can't really hold this against him - alot of people like a social drink, especially with family.
We all try to change to please those we care about but there is a serious issue as to how much you should expect your partner to change. Hope that helped.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (27 March 2008):
 Because they hope you fall for it quicly enough and give them sex.
It often works.
The real question should be, why are women so easily fooled?
“God made woman beautiful and foolish; beautiful, that man might love her; and foolish, that she might love him”
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reader, Emily123 +, writes (27 March 2008):
i think that guys act this way because they want you, and want to make you happy, even if sometimes they end up backtracking on themselves and screwing up. They want to change so say they have when really its a pile of cock and bull, but if you truly love someone i believe you love them for everything flaws and all, after all even you will have flaws to your partners that they will love you for, and one day you may findyourself doing the same as your ex, you just dont realise it
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