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writes:So I just had to break up with my gf of 7 months today because I found out that a month earlier while we took a one week break she asked an ex of hers out and only took me back because he rejected her. I know its not like she cheated on me but thats still a shitty thing to do to someone right? I did everything for this girl for half of a year of my life just so she could try and get with other guys and then come back to me sayin how she missed me the whole time and lie to me when I ask her if she tried to get with anyone during that week. I talked to her older sister and she explained how teenage girls just like to play around with their influences on guys and stuff. I guess I just wanna know why this is. Why leave a happy secure relationship just to put yourself through the risk starting a new one if you still love the person you left?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): She's still weighing her options. Obviously she's not ready for an exclusive relationship. Except maybe with her ex. In your question, you referred to her as a teenage girl. How old is she? She might not be mature enough to realize she can't play with peoples hearts, and go merrily on her way! I would do my best to forget her and move on if I were you! She's not on the same page as you. There are so many girls (women) out there looking for a guy like you, keep searching...you will find the right one!
Good Luck!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (27 February 2009):
What happened was that she was in love with her ex and not with you. But you come along and are all lovely and wonderful so being with you is clearly the logical choice. It's the right thing for any girl. Guys like you don't appear very often so she grabbed you because you are better than her ex.
The only problem with that is that she was still in love with her ex and logic doesn't really work well when it comes to love.
You were Mr Right for someone and she could see that but unfortunately it just wasn't her.
Don't think too badly of her. Just let her go and beware that nice guys are very desirable, but possibly not what they actually want.
You'll find a girl eventually who really will love you, as well as just loving the fact you are so great.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, liv1143 +, writes (27 February 2009):
 that IS a horrible thing to do. its also disrespectful to you as a person that she cares about. she belittled your worth by crawling back to you just because things didnt work out the way she thought. it seems like you were her back-up plan. its not fair to you and by the sounds of it, she doesnt deserve you.
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