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writes:I'm in a awkward place in my life, I feel like I have no direction nor anything to look forward to. I've been questioning a lot about life. I consider myself to be a good person and my attitude towards life is treat others as you want to be treated. So why do people who live by "the golden rule" have hardships in their lives. For instance, I have a friend whose dad is dying of cancer and literally has only been given days to live. My friend is a great person and very considerate of others, so why is this happening to her? Why does she have to go through something so tragic this early in her life? Not only is her father very sick they stand to lose their home because of his father's costly treatment. Why do bad things happen to good people? I haven't had a tragedy like this happen to me but it makes me scared to actually live my life because I'm constantly afraid something will go wrong. Any advice on how to just get over this feeling and step outside of my fears and live my life? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): Don't be afraid to live. Whatever happens will happen. you cannot change that. You may only react. I wish you luck, and that is all I can give.
The only advice I've ever been given that's been any use is this: Cope.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (6 November 2009):
Things like what your friend is going through is just life. People aren't immortal based on their behavior. There's a reason for everything, life is indeed rough. It's like things will be going great and then there's a big crash...you hang out on the bottom for a little bit, but then things come back up again. It's life, and what happens in life, I guarantee you, only makes us wiser and stronger. If you live a sheltered life you're never going to experience anything. If we don't experience bad...we can't experience good; without the bad we wouldn't even know what the good is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): You're looking at life as if you were in a bad dream where you could not realize that life does give hope eventually. Wether it be your own actions or the coming of a new day or the insights derived from other people that you interact with time heals all wounds. As long as you are alive there is hope for a change of outlook. It is only in death that there is no further hope. What can you do to seek direction in your life-help someone else.You are fortunate to know that at your age that you lack direction and purpose in your life. I would counsel you to look at this revelation and act on it. Since you are aware that you have no motivations at the moment take up a new interest, course, job, night course, volunteer activity, friend and seek from this new pursuit an answer to a new goal in life or toward a career for your life.You must realize that life is not fair and that there is no earthly guardian that meets out rewards for acting justly. In fact, you have now realized that it is through your own actions that you define who you are and who you become and it is with this foundation that you tackle the adversities that life will inevitably present you. It is up to you to prepare your battlements to tackle these times when they present themselves.Your friend and her family have not been rewarded unjustly by tackling the disease that has devastated their family. Since life has not personally sought out their family you cannot ascribe to someone the ill events they are experiencing. The reason for the disease could have been brought on by something her father did during his life, such as smoking or it could be the result of a genetic predisposition. In any event right now they must deal with the disease and try to come out the other end stronger people with a new insight into their lives and you yours.Perhaps you could help them to seek help in their time of distress. Can you contact some social agencies that could alleviate their hardships?You could read the book, "When Bad Things Happen to Good People" http://www.amazon.com/When-Things-Happen-Good-People/dp/0805241930Be more resilient. Have faith in yourself and trust me that tomorrow will be a better day.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (6 November 2009):
 Life is very harsh and not only do bad things happen to good people but they are the ones with the biggest hearts that have to feel the full force of these blows. Love is the only thing we truly have to give in this life and hard experiences should be felt, not pushed away. They make you stronger and more capable of helping and loving others. Be there for your friend. Be strong for her and cry with her but most of all just be there. Keep being good and you will experience joy that only the greathearted people can feel. Try to keep a smile in your pocket for when the sky gets cloudy.
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