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writes:Hay I know this is probably a silly question and i know i propably have the answer im looking for but i need help - i went out for a drink with my ex the othernight (we broke up a year ago but are still mates) well anyway we got talking about times we had been drunk and how funny we were- then all of a sudden he came out with 'do you remember when we went to that dinner dance and you ended up snogging my mate in the night club!' What!!! I had no idea that even happened as i was drinking shots that night and was v.v drunk! I was 17 at the time he was 22! Hes a really nice bloke and we carried on going out even after i did that to him! And only now is he telling me! 2 yrs after the actual incident! Im so confussed y wouldn't he tell me this at the time? - is it wrong that i feel slightly betrayed by him for not looking after me when he could see how drunk i was y didn't he step in and tell his friend to stop! Any general advise would help on this Thank you xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHay mitch, im not saying im not to blame but if your girlfriend was so drunk that she didn't know what she was doing wouldn't you want to look after her? I was only 17 at the time not that that is an excuse! If he had told me at the time what i had done i could have appologised and things might not have ended up they way they did! I guess im just finding it hard to understand why he would have let me treat him like that and why he didn't try and stop me or talk to me about it thats all - i mean 2 yrs is a long time to keep it quiet!
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reader, mitch +, writes (2 April 2007):
Don't you dare blame him for not stopping you when it was you that was drunk. Your the one who consumed the alcohol, your the one who acted as you did. Being drunk and 'not in control' in not an excuse. You should never get drunk to the point where you lose control, and you only have yourself to blame.
you were in the wrong over the incident, and your pretty damn lucky your guy stood by you and didnt mention it. I don't think you deserve him.
Perhaps he didn't tell you since he may have been hurt at the time and bringing it up would have only caused arguements.
I hope you have apologised profusely to him, if not, do so.
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