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writes:I recently got back together with my ex. We broke up for many reasons, but one of her biggest issues was I could not enjoy the moment, I overthought everything. I never thought she'd get back with me but contacted me out of the blue. I don't really care why she got back with me, but a little voice (the same one that overthought everything) is telling me I should ask her. Should I just enjoy the moment without asking "why"?
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (8 August 2009):
 Have you considered that if you ask why, she'll know you're slipping back into your old habits?
Obviously she wanted you back in her life and that's why you're together. I think you need to try to ignore that voice sometimes, or distract it by asking YOURSELF why you are questioning things. The odds are good that you question everything out of insecurity. Kick back and enjoy your happy moments together, and try to work on your self-esteem.
Good luck.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (8 August 2009):
 Shouldn't you directly ask her the question you are asking us?
Don't you already know the answer? (...because frankly, by the phasing of your question, something isn't out in the open here...).
Sometimes, We all like to thank God and go with the flow.
But when you are uneasy and you are questioning YOURSELF, then you Have to snap out of it and get to the bottom of things. Ask her as many questions as you can until it finally occurs to you what her answer truly is. With you being so recalcitrant and her being not forthcoming, the truth is being lost here.
Ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): check it old guy, ya girl only wants you back for a reason thats not nice, if shes not validating you as a person , then the truth is she doesnt like you like you think most likely shes using you, and you should care why she wants you back because for her to come out of no where and want to get back with you theres more to that story, swallow your nervousness and ask her, and if she starts acting wierd,edggy, nervous or gets mad because you asked her, take my advice, and DUMP HER ! ! SHES HIDING SOMETHNG FRM YOU and shes actind defensivly towards you, to keep u frm knowing
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