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writes:I don't know where this question will fit in. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now and everything seems to be going pretty good. He seems very happy, I'm very happy. I'm not expecting a marriage proposal anytime soon, he's looking to go into the police academy, so that's next on his agenda. Which is fine, I have a lot of respect for him with doing that. I love him very much, and I know that he is the one I want to marry. I've never felt like this before. I'm 21 and he's 26. We had the marriage talk, blah blah blah... Not ready, been burned before... Ok, he wants to see where we end up.This past weekend we were talking and he started on, "You're only 21, I don't think your ready to get married."Is this almost like a cop out??? Is he still looking for someone else? I don't know how to feel about all this now. I want to be with him and I know he will make me very happy for the rest of my life. Reply to this Question |
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (2 September 2008):
 maybe he just means you're too young, ie you'll change so much over the next 10 years, gain so much more experience of life that you'll really be a different person
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reader, countryboy +, writes (2 September 2008):
Some people just feel different about how old they want to be when they get hitched. most of my guy frinds can already tell me how old they will be when they get married. or it could be pressure from some of his friends making him think hes too young still.. I dont think he would be looking for someone else because you have been happy for a year alredy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): maybe the job of making somebody happy the rest of his life is what he's not ready for? i think you are too young if thats how you are looking at marriage and plus what are you doing now? are you in college or making things happen in your life like he is? other than marriage, what are your goals and are you doing them? marriage is more than just about love and its really just a girl notion that you fall in love and get married for happily ever after. theres more to it
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 September 2008):
 All you can do is give this some time. If he loses his interest then you'll know it's not meant to be. Marriage is a pretty damn serious step and nobody but the foolish rush into it. Just relax and enjoy your time together.
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reader, hanz1993  +, writes (2 September 2008):
 It just sounds to me like he's just saying in his own way not to expect a marriage proposal soon.But you weren't expecting it any way, so he was just making sure you new.Try not to worry to muchx
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