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writes:Hi I'm in a relationship for 3 yrs now we have a 1 yr old son the problem is we've had a few problems about him staring at other women and not making enough time for us due to his mates we were talking the other night and he mentioned one of his exes who he had never told me about who lives near us he told me before I knew all about his exes my question is why didn't he mention this one to me thank you
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 January 2016):
 It sounds to me like you are an insecure person, you say it has caused problems in the relationship him looking at other women? I think we need to accept that men will look at women and vice versa, and at the end of the day this is harmless. Maybe you have some trust issues that you need to work on, have you low self confidence?
You say he doesn't make enough time for use because he is with his mates. Yes this can be a big issue, especially when you both have a child to look after. Therefore I suggest that you talk this out and come to an agreement that you are both happy with. You need to be open and honest with each other, in order for the relationship to be a happy one.
Now coming to his ex. I cannot tell you why he has never mentioned her. Probably because he never felt the need to. Am sure he wasn't trying to hide it, as at the end off the day she is his past, and am sure if he was hiding it he would not have told you now. Maybe she didn't mean much to him so therefore he never mentioned it. I feel that you might be looking a bit to deep in to this as you have low confidence in the relationship.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (20 January 2016):
 Is there a reason he should have mentioned it? If it is an ex' then it should no longer be relevant to him or his life. And as to the proximity, what could be more natural than a girl friend who lives nearby. Is there something else that makes you distrust him?
Going out with mates is OK. But it worries you. Is it too frequent. Do you go out with your friends? There is more to this than you are telling us?
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