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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, we have two kids. A one and two year old. Just the other day. i was out, and he just up and left without notice. Got a email that he has gone crazy so he is away for a while, but I know that was a lie being in a institution. I am confused and I dont know what to think. I love him so much...What should I think? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 April 2013):
 does he have family you can contact to find out what's really going on?
if you can ask his mom and get a reasonable answer then you can decide what to do... if he's left and run away from home due to not wanting to be with you and/or your kids well that's childish and immature. I would pack up his stuff and give it to mom, change the locks and get a good attorney to get child support for your kids.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (25 April 2013):
 You should think that you;ve learned a very painful... and, probably, expensive lesson about men and life.....
1. Men have a propensity to behave like DOGS... ironically, when you least expect it... AND when you least need that angst..... and,
2. That procreating without sufficient committment (read: "Marriage") gives irresponsible - and self-centered - men just the opening that they need to shirk their responsibilities and go on with THEIR lives, whilest largely being able to forget about the unfortunate woman (and child/children) who they leave behind....
I hope the remainder of your life goes far better than has the last few days.....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2013): "I am confused and I dont know what to think. I love him so much...What should I think?"
You should think that he is a lying scumbag who just up and walked out on you and his children without a moment's notice, and since you two aren't married he has absolutely no commitment or obligation to you and so he is legally free to do so. All you can do is go to court and obtain an order of child support.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (25 April 2013):
 Hi, dont let this bring you down. Just remember he was a coward to up and leave with no explanation. He did not even consider the fact that his kids will feel abandoned. You need to be strong for yourself and the kids. If you try and analyse why and what could you have done different, its just going to drive you crazy.
You cannot get all the answers you searching for, but you sure can put this behind you and move on. I personally would not want a man back that betrayed in this manner as I will never know when he would do it again. Just take one day at a time. Goodluck and remember you can only get stronger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2013): Think nothing for the moment. You have to find out what's happened and then you have to decide what you do after that. OP it doesn't matter if you love him, he doesn't just get to abandon his kids on a whim, he better have an amazing, profound reason for this OP. But you know what? I'd change the locks if I were you. And I'd pack all his stuff up into boxes and give them to his mother.
He doesn't get to just walk back in when he feels like it either. He has a lot of making up to do before he gets to be part of your life again.
OP if you allow him to breeze back in like nothing happened then he'll just do this any time he feels like it. Who knows, he could be off with another woman, or maybe he just decided he wanted to go party with his friends.
Either way the only way he'll know he can't just walk in and out of his kids lives and leave you to pick up the pieces is to punish him severely for this.
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