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female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:I met this guy last year, we hit it off instantly and had so much in common. It was a bit of a difficult situation as he told me that he needed to be single having just been in a relationship, but we became very close very quickly. When we went out he used to hold my hand, buy my drinks, want to be close to me etc but he said we could only be 'friends', so I had to accept that even though it was really hard. He then just suddenly started drifting away and became funny with me. We met up a few months later but he wasn't the same, it's like he wasn't too bothered about me. We text a couple of times after that but I haven't seen him since, now I've found out he's actually dating someone else. I miss him though, soo much I can't work ,sleep or go out anymore cos I've not met anyone like him. I feel quite rejected and hurt, there was never even any closure, and if I text him again he'd jsut say he was 'busy'. It sucks..
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reader, Upenn_09  + ♥, writes (2 June 2008):
 hmm this is strangely similar to what happened to me (may I refer you to my question... what would you do in m case?), however, this is what most of the aunties and auncles have told me.
If a guy is EMOTIONALLY available and LIKES YOU he will do all that's within his power to develop a relationship.
If he's on/off he's a) too immature b)got emotional baggage that you DON'T WANT, NEED not SHOULD PUT UP with
Move on, this guys is def. not worth your time if he'd want to be with you, he'd already done it and he's already told you his feelings (which I doubt you can do much to change them)
Think about this: when we like someone don't we do whatever we can to strike a conversation, or just somehow let them know that we are available and that we like them?.
I don't think that this guy has bad intentions, he probably likes you and has tried to like you as a girlfriend but maybe you feel a connection but he doesn't. I'd say that you should move on a find someone that likes you the way you love him
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reader, Jen86  +, writes (1 June 2008):
I was in exactly the same situation as this. The guy i liked even took me to the cinema a few times and on random am trips to a supermarket for nothing.
M point is is that you were there as a female friend when he needed one. Men like to have female companionship when thet're not in relationships. They're funny like that. He's been funny and not to bothered as he's got another female in his life so (i'm sorry to say) he doesn't need you any more. It hurts and is very VERY frustrating but you can't force him to go back to being the way you were or even to be more interested in you than just goood friends ( I really hate that term!)
Hopefully you won't be in this situation again and that you find a decent guy who doesn't do this to you.
Best wishes.
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reader, Jen86 +, writes (1 June 2008):
I was in exactly the same situation as this. The guy i liked even took me to the cinema a few times and on random am trips to a supermarket for nothing.
M point is is that you were there as a female friend when he needed one. Men like to have female companionship when thet're not in relationships. They're funny like that. He's been funny and not to bothered as he's got another female in his life so (i'm sorry to say) he doesn't need you any more. It hurts and is very VERY frustrating but you can't force him to go back to being the way you were or even to be more interested in you than just goood friends ( I really hate that term!)
Hopefully you won't be in this situation again and that you find a decent guy who doesn't do this to you.
Best wishes.
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