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writes:My wife and I have been having great sex lately and we have been very adventurous with each other after many years together. We have given each other oral sex a million times and we have both enjoyed it greatly. I wanted to do something really nice for her so I gave her oral just for her pleasure without her having to do anything back for me. I have given her hundreds of orgasms over the years but she just couldn't do it. She tried masterbating and she still couldn't get there. That was yesterday. So after she wasn't so upset about it last night I did it again and she still couldn't get there so we had sex and she had three orgasms. We have gotten that part down really well. We talk a lot and I know that she isn't faking it. We are way beyond that. She's upset though because she wasn't able to orgasm through oral sex and she has orgasmed from it when we have 69ed. This time I put my head between her legs facing her and she really liked this but this isn't the way I've usually done this for her but I have done this before. She almost did it a few times but not quite. Is it because of the position of my head? Maybe she's just nervous because all the attention is on her? Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): I cannot orgasm thru oral sex either every time. My current lover really like me to give it to him and he gives it to me, yet I am going thru the change (in my early 50s) and sometimes get distracted or what not. Sometimes I am too self conscious as I did not get oral as much as now. So we've come to an understanding that while I MAY not come every time I STILL ENJOY and appreciate it and want it and it's OK if I don't come. That has helped. As I felt really anxious to COME if he was giving me head. He almost always comes when I do it to him, but we've agreed that when he does not it is ok there too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): I am the one who asked the question. I think that not my name hit the nail right on the head. Thank you. She will thank you as well.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 Perhaps you wife just mentally feels more comfortable giving, or engaging in mutual pleasure than just being on the recieving end.
She may not even be consciously aware of this mind set, but it could explain why she has no probs when you are both recieving but does when it is only her.
If so I am not a psychologist, so not sure how you would go about making her feel within herself that she is entitled and worthy, but I guess it could be a stepping stone to look in to.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (1 February 2010):
 Your apparent age and the comment that you have engaged in mutual oral satisfaction "millions of times" would lead me to believe that your are plenty experienced. Why worry about a few times? Try different positions giving cunnilingus. There's a dozen or more various ways to orally satisfy her. Let her squat over you, and make love to her with your tongue and lips.
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