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Why can't I orgasm when we have sex?

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Question - (6 December 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 7 December 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *dkanymore11 writes:

when me and my bf have sex i just cant seem to orgasm. he alwas gets off before i can even come close to it. is there something wrong with me?

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (7 December 2010):

Tisha-1 agony auntNothing wrong with you. You're just in the majority of women who do not orgasm through intercourse. It's likely that you need clitoral stimulation and are not getting it.

Think of it this way, would he orgasm if nothing stimulated his penis? Probably not. So you can't orgasm if your clitoris isn't stimulated. You're normal.

Maybe the trick is to remember that sex for you doesn't revolve around his penis. It revolves around whatever it is that gets YOU off. So you have to figure that out and then show him.

Good luck!

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A female reader, nicoleray143 United States +, writes (6 December 2010):

nicoleray143 agony auntLady..it has to be him, dont blame yourself at all, other guys have brought you to orgasm 'Right?? you should talk to him about it and make sure the issue is not him not making his best performance just cause all he cares about is him having an orgasm.

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A male reader, mdw United Kingdom +, writes (6 December 2010):

Nope I say all girls can come there clit it just need to find the right spot to hit it or for the G spot get a pillow and put it under your lower back so your pussy is up in the or a little higher then normal. it called the 2 inch bigger missionary. that way when he going in to he going to be hitting your G spot

or you can do the come hither hand movement on your self find your G spot

feel like a little ruff patch inside the pussy upper wall you can find your G spot. if you know where it is fast you be able to cum

if he a 2 pump chump you not got a hope in hell. hope this help with the twitching

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A female reader, Nime United States +, writes (6 December 2010):

Nime agony auntIs your boyfriend taking the time to pleasure you through foreplay or is he just entering you and going until he's done? It usually takes women considerably longer to achieve orgasm than men, and they often need direct stimulation to their clitoris. Fewer than 30% of women can climax through intercourse alone, so if your boyfriend always just heads straight for intercourse it's no wonder you don't orgasm!

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A female reader, Mjfbla United States +, writes (6 December 2010):

Mjfbla agony auntWell maybe he is cumming to fast. Also girls have a hard time getting off. Theres nothing wrong with you

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010):

The usual thing you'll hear is that guys easily "come" first... and usually do so. Another thing you'll hear is that gentleman wait for the lady. Perhaps ask him to learn some tactics that will help his waiting game...

-Tante Victoire

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