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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, this is embarrassing, but I would really like to know what others think. I've only been sexually active for about two months. Ever since I started having sex, I've had trouble reaching orgasm, whether my bf is stimulating me or even if I'm doing it on my own. I never had issues before, especially when I was doing it solo. I'm frustrated and worried that this will eventually have a negative effect on my relationship because I know he thinks it's important for him to make me orgasm. What is the cause of this (if any) and what do I do now? Any advice would be greatly appreciated - however, this is a really sensitive topic with me so please answer respectfully. Thank you.
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reader, micpets  +, writes (4 March 2010):
I will give this a try, therefore it might not be perfect.
From having read your email my answer would be perhaps you should try and relax before and during the actual act. This in my opinion relaxes your body which means that you don't put as much pressure on yourself which sometimes takes away concentration.
Sometimes it comes down to how well our half knows our bodies which takes a little time especially being with a new partner.
Best answer; take it slowly, relax and go with the flow. It might not come first time but eventually you will get there.
Hope that helps.
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