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writes:I'll start by saying whenever I'm at school all I do is sit by myself and listen to music the whole school day. People constantly tell me I look depressed including my sister who is two years younger than me. I am pretty depressed if you ask me, and have extremely low self confidence. Some of my guy friends say that I could be a lady killer, including my brother in law. In fact, my brother in law had a talk with me because He is very concerned with how I isolate myself from people and events (He's 38 and I'm 18). He went on by saying that I am not an ugly kid, and I could get a girlfriend if I wanted. He also said there are some people who have a reason to be like me because they have real problems, but I shouldn't be one.My sister told me that I'm not ugly as well and said "Who would like you!? You never talk and look miserable all the time". So do you think that's why girls look at me like I'm a weirdo at school?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 December 2012):
 I'm thinking the girls look at you "weirdly" because they have no clue how to go about talking to you or even help you. I think they sense your "unhappiness" but don't know how to reach out to you.
And I think that may-hap you read WAY more into how they look at you then what is actual facts. You said it yourself, you are not bad looking, girls (as well as buys) like to look at a good looking person.
Your earplugs is your way of pushing people away or hindering them from approaching you. You know this and you use it as a shield to keep others away. It's working pretty well, yes?
I suggest you go see your school counselor and talk about the depression and talk to your parents. Depression in teens is not a stigma and it's not that uncommon.
I would suggest you try and join a club at school or get a hobby/sport after school interact with others. Don;t worry so much about dating and girls til you start feeling a little more secure in yourself. Girls really don't bite... much. (and they are JUST as insecure as you)
Try and break out of your little bubble and talk to people.
Live life :) Don't watch it go by.
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reader, idontevenrecognisemyself  +, writes (6 December 2012):
Maybe you just need to be more social. I know it's hard, but include yourself in more activities with other people. Try smiling at people more and talking and laughing with them. Just start it off slowly and build it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2012): Its a case of not selling yourself. Ok so you may not be ugly, but an ugly personality or vibe is just as much a put off to people as a person who's on the lesser of the physical attractive side. If you sit there with a face like a wet weekend just bobbing your head to music in your earphones, you're giving the impression that you just want to be left in your own little musical world, so people will leave you there. You need to become more exciting for girls to notice you, and look more available and approachable for them to take an interest in you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2012): I think you need to focus on being yourself and building a happy life. Who cares what girls at school think.
You need to improve your confidence, you need to educate yourself and go to college, you need to pick up some hobbies and interests.
This is the first step: Focusing on yourself and building up your confidence. Go talk to a counselor/therapist. Quit listening to music, focus on your studies and getting into college. Pick up new hobbies and interests in your spare time. Don't over think things. Just do it.
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