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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and we live together. We went from fighting all the time to hardly fighting to now we are fighting again. There's three issues that I have with him. The first one being his friends and family live about 45 minutes away and the only time he sees them is on weekend. The only people he hangsout with is his brother his mom and like one friend his mom don't like me and his friend don't like me and his friend don't want me around I'm not even allowed in his friends house because he don't like me his mom don't like me and ive only met her once and that was two years ago. His brother likes me. So I never go around his friends or to his moms house. Idk how to deal with not being able to go around people he associates with I feel like it's not normal because every couple goes to each others families and hangsout with each others friends. Two of my friends don't like him and my other friends I hardley ever see. The second issue I have is we never take pictures together we haven't taken a picture together since in the summer is that normal? And the last thing is when he makes plans to spend the day with me when we aren't doing anything or its boring he leaves me to go hangout with his brother or friends his other friends he has he hardley ever sees them because they're busy and married and have their own life. Should I continue this relationship or should I end it. He keeps saying he'll take me around his mom and people but he has to talk them first to make sure its okay. Advice please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2015): You simply settled for this guy, just to have a boyfriend. He doesn't include you, his friends don't like you, and your friends don't like him. You must be miserable. Well, if you only met his mother once, you can't really say she doesn't like you. She doesn't even know you.
Your boyfriend just needs a cook, housekeeper, and someone to keep his bed warm. You complain, but what kept you around to put up with this for two whole years?
It's a miserable existence, and you're just a player in the background. All you have to do is dump the guy and move-out.
Please, please, please...after telling us how neglected you are; don't turn around and say "you love him." What's there to love? You may as well live alone; or be his roommate and date other guys. You're showing all the signs of a clinging girlfriend who won't go-away. Seems he only keeps you around; because you help pay the rent, and you're a roommate he can boink once in awhile.
It's easy to become complacent and not want to deal with the dating scene. So once you have a warm-body to call boyfriend; you just don't want to go through the trouble of dating, and getting to know other guys. Did you burn bridges behind you to be with this guy? If not, pack your things and move-out as soon as you can tell him it's over. There's nothing to stick around for. Freedom is calling!!!
Now, after I've said what a real dick he is; you'll tell us how sweet he used to be. My dear, it's time to get out of this mess. You're too young to be sitting around waiting at home; while he's out hanging with the guys like he's still in high school. Is anyone in this story going to college?
If not, do it for yourself. You'll have your pick of fellas and the benefit of a higher education. Don't you think you deserve better?
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