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female
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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for several years. Things have been good between us. I think we have a pretty good relationship. There is only one problem. Lately I do not feel sexually attracted to him. I am usually a very sexual person and was always willing to jump at the chance to have sex. Now, when ever he initiates sex, I am not interested. I still have sex with him, but it is really just going through the motions. I really do try to get into it, but something is just missing. I tried talking to him, but that really doesn't go over well. He hates what is going on and wants to know what is wrong with me. I guess I am looking for any suggestions or advice from someone who has been in this situation before. Reply to this Question |
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reader, DoubleM + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
 Maintaining interest in sex often requires some variation, because it can become, as you say, "just going through the motions." Based on your limited input, my only suggestion can be to explore more variety in sexual activity. It does not need to be weird, perverse or extreme, just more varied or somewhat more surprising. Explore oral stimulation if not already enjoyed. Different positions, times or places may also help renew interest.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
 Has he gained a lot of weight? have you? are you under enormous pressure from work? do you have money worries? i am asking this and could ask a million more reasons as to why your not getting aroused with him.
Many factors need to be taking into consideration when you start to feel like this, if you can identify with a few things i have mentioned that could be the reason!
If not it may well be for you the relationship has become stale! the only way you can spice up your sex life and your feelings for him is by talking to him, tell him how you feel ask him to tell you how he feels when he is making love to you, communication seems to be missing here and i think if you both could communicate better you could get to the bottom of this.
Talk like there is no tomorrow and i am sure you can sort this problem by doing so.
Gina
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