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*rndz4life
writes:hii m 21 yrs of age, i had always been somewhat a reserved kind of person.to be frank till today i havent made much friends as in whom i would call true friends. i had a best friend when i was in high school but now doesnt even talk to me pretends that she doesnot know me just because i am a nerd kind of person..after that i had a best friend whom i shared all my secrets but somehow that secret was used as a blackmailing thing. (....i somehow managed over that problem) now my best friend always misunderstands me since she has an issue that i dont share my secrets or personal things(..like my personal relations wd my bf)she is like "u dont think me as a true friend"i dont know how to explain her. and she is a complete opposite on mine an extrovert, how do i tel her i have been without friends all y life. have been reserved all my life.. i dont feel comfortable telling any kind of secrets to anyone now. i just like to keep them safe with me who knows that secret may be used as a weapon again.. mainly now its not just abt trust its like my secrets will reveal my mistakes n i m afraid she would look down upon me..i have tried talking to her but no use .she still feels the samewhose fault is it? what do i do? does only sharing secret give a proof of friendship? how do i explain to her? sometimes i feel nits just betr to be alone that this emotional stressplease help
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reader, aAoa +, writes (15 March 2011):
you don't really have to share your secrets with anyone. just tell her what you feel comfortable talking about. don't tell her anything else. tell her you don't have any secrets.most of the time its better not to talk about your secrets with anyone.i have a single friend who knows all about me.. and he is so nice about it.. there aren't many people who can take you for who you are.so first try and be yourself around people. if they accept you for who you are without badgering/pressuring you, then they are true friends.
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reader, frndz4life +, writes (15 March 2011):
frndz4life is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnx a lot for ur advise that is really appreciated!!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 March 2011):
 Just explain to her, that you have some trust issues because of people in the past, tell her you trust her but that you just simply dont have any secrets. When it comes to your relationship with your boyfriend just explain to her that you and him have both agreed to keep your relationship private. Its nobodys business but yours and if you want to keep certain parts of your life private then that is your choice to make, if she is a true friend she wont mind. Just ask her to stop asking you about it because its who you are and either she loves you for it or she doesnt.
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