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writes:I'm with this guy who is 25 and we have been together for 4 years now. But there was this 20ish guy at college who i fancied but he didnt fancy me, he just didnt seeem interested, he always had girfriends who where on and off and after college i didnt see him to much beacuse he was busy.Anyway i went out with the 20yr old guy and a mate and he admited to me that he has liked me since college but never said anything beacuse i was with this 25 year old.What do i do? I really love the 20ish year old he has a job, is great with the kids and my family seem to like him.But my 25yr old boyfriend is really nice good with the kids, i dont love him but he will do nice things like take the kids to school in a morning and his family have been nice to me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 December 2009):
 I still dont get it, your age is listed between 22 and 25, your current boyfriend and you have been together for 4 years, you dont say the KIDS, plural, are his, which means you had kids very early, and he must have been around for much of their lives and for much of the time you have been a parent. Now you want to dump him for some kid of only 20 and it appears from your original question his main attraction is his "good job" and the fact your family like him - has he been introduced to them as a replacment for the current boyfriend?
Are you even sure what you want? Have you made long term plans for your and your childrens well being for the next 15 to 20 years that doesnt depend on somebody else bringing home the bacon?
If you dump the 25 year old and the 20 year old turns out to lack staying power, what then?
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reader, avril1986 +, writes (24 December 2009):
avril1986 is verified as being by the original poster of the question They are My kids aunt bim bim and @ caringguy I've tryed to sugest a break with the 25yr old but he doesn't c the point in them the 25yr old is now buying me flowers and trying to be romantic thanks for the answers x
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (24 December 2009):
whose kids are these guys both great with? Yours or somebody elses?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 December 2009):
If you can't make your mind up, maybe you should spend some time alone to think about what you really want from your life. There's only room in a heart for one, so if you like both these guys, you don't like them enough to take it further yet. Spend some time alone and see what you really want.
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