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rarejul
writes:Two gentlemen from dating sites which i'm very interested one is an economist, so sweet, the other is retired, and just the kind of man i always wanted. Both express their desire for me. I will meet them both, yet I dont want to lead them on. I live in AZ, they both live in DC. They're coming to visit me. I'm talking on the phone. What should I do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, LazyGuy  + ♥, writes (26 June 2008):
 Why choose yet? Don't lead them on and lie about dating other men, but at this stage you can just meet both of them and see if it clicks with either of them.
Just don't lie about it. Do you think you are the only woman they are in contact with?
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reader, jabey  + ♥, writes (26 June 2008):
relax, meet them both. When you meet them you then can choose as to whether there is one you prefer or not, thats the whole point of a dating site, is to meet new people and then choose if you wish to go further than friendship.
You are only leading someone on if you make false promises, but if you just, say you wouold like to meet them and see what happens from there, then thats fine.
It is a factof dating Im afraid, especially internet dating, where often you end up talking to a few people at once, and not sure which one to choose. Try not to worry you are a few agent and only need to commit to one person if you decide to have a relationship and take it further.
In the meantime you can have as many friends as you like xxxxx
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (26 June 2008):
 You don't even know them yet so no need for a crisis! You are acting like both of them have asked you to marry them and you need to decide today! Get to know these guys, in essence, the whole dating process could be viewed as misleading. They are taking the same risks you are and either end could unravel at any time. I'm sure they are both getting to know other women as well. RELAX.
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