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male
age
30-35,
*he Meister
writes:Hey I need sum help!Where can i find a gf? Im 18 and have never had a gf? And obviously a virgin then. I have no confidence in going up to girls and talking to them. But wen i do find sum courage they usually go for my more attractive mates. What can i do?
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reader, Steve0 +, writes (16 December 2007):
 hey dude...
dont fret bout it man its no biggie im 19 had 1 girlfriend for 2years n thts it.. it aint a race to loose urslf! like the dudes above said let it find you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): go for girls who are in the same situation as you to gain your confidence even if you don't think they are quite as "fit" as you would like.you make find you actually really like someone and if you are with someone else who is inexperienced you can relax together and not have to worry about impressing one another. you can explore together should be good. good luck
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reader, laurens  +, writes (14 December 2007):
i dont think you need to stress too much yet. ive known lots of guys who havent found anyone at that age.
work on your friendships with people first let them see who you really are. then things may develop into more than that if the perosn is right for you.
but i think your putting too much pressure on yourself. if your looking at every girl as a potential mate it will not help your nerves at all. and each time you fail your confidence will drop lower.
lower the pressure and take it one step at a time.
parties and social occasions are a good place to start, theres no pressure on conversation and you odnt have to have any motives so say hi to someone or start a casual conversation.
hope some of that was helpful
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): hello there. if it is a confidence thing go with a dating agency. i use one, i'm 42. its like a confidence builder. i find it helpful. my confidence plummitted and i need to build. this is the way that i'm doing it. but remember, everyone has a talent, a beauty. dont let it control you. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): All i can say is that love works in misterious ways. My advice to you is to wait til' it finds you. When your patient then everything seems to come out just the way you wanted it rather than when your in a rush, things come out a little messy. Nothing is wrong with you just because you've never had a girlfriend yet. Everyone has their own time. Its just not the time for you and you must accept that. Those girls you go after are the superficial types and they arent worth the worry. Dont put yourself down just because you've been let down before. Just think of it as " They werent made for me". You'l have your time soon and trust me, it'll be worth the wait. Your stil young so go have fun and meet new people. Have some courage and confidence and you'll notice that a lot of girls admire that. Good luck!
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