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writes:hi im 16 and me and my bf go to the same school. whenever bf comes round my house every weekend at one point in the day i always suddenly get this really sad feeling and i just want to cry and most of the time i do start crying! i never get this feeling when my mates come round!whats wrong with me!?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): I don't think there is anything wrong with you, but I think you are maybe a bit starved for love and attention, and I actually think that this stems from you being distant to one of your parents, or a person that you value in your family...it happens sometimes when you are a teen that you can't feel you can open up and be yourself with a parent because you are finding your own identity and don't want to be influenced.
But I think it would do you some good to turn towards this person or persons and spend some alone time, and get closer to them so you feel that you are operating from a secure base of love....even though you are growing up, you still very much need the guidance and discipline from your parents to help you make the right choices in life. And you have so many choices don't you, kids today have so much thrown at them and can often feel overwhelmed.
I think that is it mostly that you feel a bit overwhelmed with all of your emotions that are swirling inside of you, and when your boyfriend comes around you notice how superficial your relationship can be at times (like when he comments on stupid things that don't matter in a critical way), dating is like that, and it brings up feelings of disconnection from your family, so go spend time with them...
This may seem pretty deep and analytical to you, but I think that is what is going on here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): hi i posted this question. well mine and my bf's relationship is very good. and he is so nice and respectful to me and i totally trust him! well yesterday it happened where i started crying because he said a tiny comment like making fun of how i say a word or something and that started it off. i think it just shocked me cos he never says anything to hurt me but just this one jokie comment shocked me and upset me.why do you think this is?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): It would have helped a bit more if you had said a bit more about your relationship with your boyfriend. Has he ever cheated on you or vice versa? Maybe you are worried that he will. What do you think of before you start crying? Maybe this will help solve why you keep crying before your boyfriend comes round to your house.
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