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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:A couple of weeks ago i made out with this girl i really like, and then a week later i asked her out and she agreed. The date went well i think, but we didn't make out or anything, but she did put her head on my shoulder during the movie a couple of times, and had her legs gently against mine.Ever since we made out though, i have found that we cant seem to talk to each other. On my part, whenever i see her i get a sudden feeling in my stomach and if she is with a friend i almost avoid her or ignore her, but although i am not sure why i do it, i know it is not because i dont like her-its like im embarressed or shy.This only seems to happen when she is around other people, like when we are in school or when she is with her friends. When she is alone though i talk to her with no problem and when we seperate i feel happier even though we just talk about normal things like how our days were.I am almost sure she still still likes me (she had liked me before we made out), but i want to try and get myself past this so i can move forward and at least tell her or show her how i feel about her more than i am now (which is close to nothing). A couple of my friends just keep telling me i need to break out of my shell and talk to her in school, and even though i know this would solve the problem, it is just not as simple as that because i am a very very shy person when it comes to any girl i like (and im sure some of you understand that). Can anyone give me an idea as to why i tend to avoid or ignore her, and how i can try and take steps to overcome this in some way, or what i should do? Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): Hi Hunny
I dont think you have social phobia hunny your just nervous of what to say and if you say the right or wrong thing so you get all quiet instead.. Maybe believing in yourself a little more will help hunny a confidence boost....
http://www.choices4u.org.uk/confidence.html
Hunny this may help a little it may not apply all to you but you can take little snippets and it may make a difference to your shyness, You just need that extra little bit of self esteem and really believe in yourself, This girl likes you so thats not a problem hunny, Alot of people go through this but Im sure if you can just pass through that shyness and feel confident you will be on your way and there will be no stopping you love. TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 well hun my ex boyfriend did the same thing to me lol..and i used to always wonder why the hell is he doing this and at one point of time i got really pissed and dint respond to his messages so he finally gathered up courage and came to me in school and told me he wanted to talk to him..and he expalined why he behaved like that..and i found it really cute lol..but being a girl i want my boy friend to come out in the open,talk to me in front of my friends,be all flirty its really nice..may be cause you just started off things with this girl your kinda shy but please dont continue with it u have to be bold enough and talk to her in school or else she would regret having someone who doesnt exist to her in schooll..did she tell u anything about your behaviour??and how did u know she liked u??did u ask her out first???just curious cause u have the same sticky situation as i did lol..hope to hear from u soon hun tc
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