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writes:I recently found out that I'm bipolar and depressed. It explains a lot but what I don't understand is when i walk away from my friends because I'm upset, not a single one comes over to talk to me. Some of them know about the disorder, but they seem to not care. I'm usually a very happy person except for at night when im alone, then i think about the end, although I'd never do it. Its hard for me to open up to my friends. Even my best friends, because they seem to not care.what do i do?
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reader, Tisha-1 + ♥, writes (27 June 2008):
 When someone walks away, looking upset, most people will tend to give them space. Walking away signals to most people 'leave me alone, I don't want to talk right now.' If you stayed put, looking upset, then your friends should be giving you the support you're looking for.
So if this is making unhappy, then have a talk with your closets friends and let them know that you do actually want someone to come talk to you, even though you've walked off. But then, you cannot get angry at the one who tries to help when this happens.
Hope your treatment for the bipolar disorder and depression goes well; it can be treated and there are some very successful people out there who function perfectly well with these conditions.
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reader, Annalisa  + ♥, writes (27 June 2008):
 If you consider them your friends, you should tell them how you feel and ask why they act like they do.
They might just think you walk away because you need space, so they leave you to cool down alone out of respect for you.
Another reason might be that they don't really know how to deal with your reactions.
You know, the last time I went after an upset friend, I had a door slammed in my face twice and she hasn't really spoken to me in a year! Apparently, she's used to calming down alone until she is happy again. That's how her family have always treated her! Me caring and trying to talk to her just made her mad, for some reason...
I suggest you talk to your friends and family. It's the only way you can put your mind at rest.
God bless you and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): From experience, I've found that people just don't really know how to act around people who have depression, bipolar disorder, or anything else like that. Sometimes it's not that they don't care, they just don't understand. Sometimes I think maybe they don't realize the severity of the situation. To be honest, I think even when you do open up about this type of thing it's not guarenteed to help. I was diagnosed about 10 years ago & my family still don't seem to know how to act around me when I'm having problems. The only thing you can really do is try & be aware of what triggers the depression / mania, take your medication, & make sure you seek professional help if it gets too much to handle.
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