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writes:Love is really confusing. I've never experienced it, maybe that's why I can't get my head around it. What's the most important thing in a relationship? I know different people will have different opinions but I'm curious. The majority of us have a dream partner but the reality of it is different. Some couples have a deep, intense relationship but can't make it work due to outside factors. Others are happy with a more realistic relationship but lack that connection that other couples have. So what's most important?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): There are a lot of things that are important about relationships. I feel that everyone has the innate human desire to be accepted and finding someone who wants to ride shotgun and hold your hand through the greatest and worst moments of your life is like a dream come true, even if the relationship is short lived. I also feel like the communication aspect of relationships is extremely important. Being able to trust someone so completely with your feelings, secrets, and everything else & having them return it is just great.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (20 March 2010):
 Honesty, trust and truthful dealings with each other.. find a man who you fancy sexually, someone you also class as a friend. If he feels the same way about you, then I think your off to a good start.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 I can't single out just one thing that's the most important. Being in love in all different stages in a relationship keeps a couple together. Doing special things to remind each other of the love. Before we get to that let's say don't rush into a relationship and hope the one missing element would just come into place. There is no one formula that would make all relationships work. We grow and change hopefully in the same direction but sometimes we become different people. I find in dearcupid many people have trouble juggling roles in a marriage: mother, father, lover, friend, professional. So being flexible is also very important. Some women don't want give blowjobs and act kinky when they become mothers. Some fathers don't want to spank their children's mom because it feels awkward. So where does that creative energies go? How can they deal with this suppressed need to dominate, or be submissive without looking outside of the marriage?
To summarize, in order to stay in love, you need to know how to handle stress well, keep a relaxed attitude, express gratitude to your partner, put effort into spending time with each other, be patient, be flexible to unexpected changes, on top of this assuming that you are both financially secure to build a family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): hey,
My two things I consider important in any relationship is honesty to youself and to each other and trust, as well as love lol.Love is not enough in a relationship though it needs more than that to make things work. Couples should trust each other and more importantly not be afraid to talk about anything no matter how upsetting or embarrasing it is. Me and my partner have like an honesty thing where if neither of us felt upset about how we acted or something is bothering them in the relationship to have a talk about it. No one can really define what is important in a relationship, everyone is an individual with different backgrounds and diversity.But those two points I consider important to me in a relationship.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 the connection and molding those outside factors into your relationship or disregarding them totally.
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