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What's the best way to get over the guilt of my breakup and start dating again?

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Question - (31 May 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 1 June 2011)
A female United States age 51-59, *inklady49 writes:

I live with my x-husband and we have a great friendship and we love each other, but we r no longer in love with each other. He tells me to go out and meet someboy, but I feel guilty. Do I get over this feeling and start dating again. Also what are the chances that someone I meet will understand my living arrangements with my x??

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011):

I agree-you definitely need to move out and get on with your life on your own.

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A female reader, k_c100 United Kingdom +, writes (31 May 2011):

k_c100 agony auntWell I would suggest that you dont start dating again until you have moved out and are fully over your ex. No man is going to want to date a woman who not only lives with her ex, but will also happily say she still loves him!

It is highly unlikely any man will understand your living arrangements, it makes no sense to live with an ex and it would only make any new man uneasy and uncomfortable. Plus you could not take a new man home when your ex is there, that is very weird and would make things uncomfortable.

You also need to get to the point where you no longer love your ex husband - yes it is fine to remain friends and care for each other, but if you still love him then you are nowhere near ready to date again.

Move out, take some time to really get over your ex and then think about dating again. But right now, dating should be the last thing on your mind as you are nowhere near ready.

I hope this helps and good luck!

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