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writes:What's the best way to dress to attract men that genuinely like you - and aren't just after you for 'one thing'?I had 'advice' from a girl a while ago about clothes to wear to attract a guy but I thought they were a bit trashy/slutty and I wouldn't have felt comfortable in them, so I didn't wear any of the things she said.Recently, on nights out with friends, I have been wearing new clothes I have bought that I feel comfortable in. Trouble is, I am attracting guys who are asking for my number and are calling me next day, but I am not interested. They make me think THEY are the desperate ones.Also, is wearing knee-high boots a bad idea?I just want to start attracting a guy I'm interested in as well as him being GENUINELY interested in me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Juliet  +, writes (29 August 2007):
To genuinely like you- they have to know you.
When i started college three years ago, i decided to dress in the causal clothes i liked, including big jumpers, baggy pants etc. Then after i had become mates with the men, i went out one night dressed in a sexy outfit i liked and had chosen to wear. They were STUNNED!
In doing this, they knew what sort of a person i was in advance ( clothes choice inc).
They paid me tons more attention then the other sexier women in the bar got, because i had WOWed them. I was their mate, and now i was looking good!! My "transformation" was more impressive then some goodlooking random.
Plus, i knew that i wouldnt just be a shag to them as i was their mate.
I was being myself, making mates anyway so no time wasting, and got time to choose which order to rank my interest in each guy.
Im telling you this because it is important to not dress in clothes you wouldnt normally wear/ pick for yourself! You will feel self-conscious and the guy will wonder why you "let yourself go" then when you became a couple.
Most men like women who dress casually, look relaxed.
Ever wonder why the mate in a relationship gets all the male attention? Its because she isnt trying. Little makeup, casual clothes, etc. Then when they like you, wow them!
Hope this helps ;0)
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (16 May 2007):
 If you were clothes that makes you use your sexuality in order to attract guys, then you will only attract guys that are interested in your sexuality. You can not have it both ways in the real world. If you want to attract a guy that genuinely likes you for you, go out and explore your INTERESTS, and meet guys that have similar interests. Dress for your interests (if you like art, go to measums and art shows, and dress appraopriate for those venues).
And stop giving out your phone numbers to guys you are not interested in. You are leading them on, and that is bad karma which keeps you from meeting the people you want. They would not call you if you did not give out your number.
-FBK
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): This may be cliche but the best advice i can give you is too be yourself. There is nothing men love more than a girl who is confident and comfortable in her own skin. And oh yeah knee high prolly isnt the best thing to wear, it more often tends to attract the wrong kind of attention.
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