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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Background -I was with this boy for over a year and I only broke up with him because I was depressed and didn't want it to affect him; I loved him when we were together and I still do, and he's always telling me he loves me still. After we broke up, i missed him and wanted to be back with him but, 3months after, I eventually started to realise i liked this over boy; me and him are now together and have been for 3months now. Basically, my ex is now telling me he wants us to be back together. When I think about it, I want us to be back together as well, but i also have strong feelings for my current boyfriend. I don't know what to do, it's sort of like I want to be with both of them. Just to be clear, I'm not thinking of cheating or anything.Question-What's the best thing to do? and how?Any help would be appreciated, thanks in advance :) xxx
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 I am thinking, your ex accepted the break up just like that, didn't even ask you what would happen when you got better, and just hope that you would still think of him dearly. It's like he's shocked and didn't know what to respond. He's afraid that fighting for you would stress you out and make the situation worse. When you were depressed you just wanted to be left alone and wouldn't want to make any decisions for the future. He didn't try enough and you didn't love him enough to consider him again. I think its too late for him now and you should leave him in the past. Just tell him your feelings aren't the same. Whether your new boyfriend is "the one" doesn't matter. The fact is that you didn't love your boyfriend enough. I think being with a new guy is better for you because going back to your ex might trigger the pain that you felt when you were with him.
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