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writes:Hey me and my husband both want to have a lot of kids but theres one problem, we cant agree on the spaceing of it. He wants to have them all close togather but i want them to be spaced out. So they each can have a "specail moment" like when they all want your atenchin and that would be hard with a lot of little kids. But he wants them all close so they have some one close to there age to play with and for when they go to school they would fall in a grade behind each other. So i was wondering how long should people wait intil having another baby? Reply to this Question
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 I don't think anyone can tell you what's 'best' because it is such a personal choice.
I think you'll find that when you've had a child, you'll know what's best for you as parents and be able to decide from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): Actually OP having a toddler say 5 years old and a baby, or other similar age gap is very difficult. Jealousy can be an issue, one will start school while you're trying to take care of a baby, so you have a lot more to do logistically.
With twins or two babies a year apart, you're already in the routine of taking care of a baby, you just double the amount of nappies you buy etc. but the routine doesn't vary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): Either really close or really far in my opinion.
I was a teenager when my sister was born so they had a ready made baby sitter and someone to take up the slack of parental duties. Two really close is good too they always have back up in life and share similar things and if they're the same sex then all the older ones things can be handed down.
You see with a big age gap you always have a protective older sibling, one that gets to experience the joy of having a baby in their life while they near adult hood. It's great practice actually. Plus the younger one is always the baby, there's no chance of sibling rivalry and (touch wood) if anything were ever to happen to you both then one would be prepared and able to take over for you.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 IMHO the closer together the better. It's easier on the parents -- it's amazing how well they can occupy each other -- and helps them become closer. My girls are 23 months apart and are great buds. My boy came along three years later and is a bit of the odd one out.
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