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writes: i have been with mt husband for 7 yrs got married when i was 21 we have two young kids. my issue is he did'nt tell me he was h.i.v positive when we got together and only found out after a year of going out by that time i had it as well he has lied about how he got so many times.i thought i could deal with and have got on with being with him and the kids. I felt so trappped a few days ago i had had enough and told him that i didn't want to be with him anymore because i don't love him and of wat he did to me. he has since told me that he got h.i.v from when he was in prison he got raped. i don't want to stay with him because of that. i don't know wat to do he tells me i am the reason he is alive. i acn go on like this please help.
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reader, Bubbabay  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 he is a liar and you needs to leave him and dont come back because he cause you your life .
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reader, TimmD +, writes (29 December 2010):
 If he knew he had HIV and intentionally hid it from you then he essentially assaulted you. And while people can live long and full lives without ever developing AIDS, especially with the medications out today.... he still could have given you a death sentence. This is known as criminal transmission. Could you prosecute him? Possibly. But either way you must leave this man. He has lied to you, physically harmed you, and he has manipulated you. Even now you feel guilty because he tells you that you are the reason he is alive. You don't treat "the reason you are alive" the way he has treated you.
Since he has contracted HIV it is his responsibility to take precautions NOT to spread it. He has been purposefully negligent and in my opinion should be put into jail. Since you told us he's already been to jail, I think this just speaks more about his character and is all the more reason to stay away from him.
Sorry you had to be subjected to such an individual. Unlike him, I hope now you take the necessary precautions to protect others around you from transmission as well. Good luck.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (29 December 2010):
 In many areas what he did is punishable by manslaughter charges, even murder. I know that's the case in the US.
I feel very bad for you. I don't blame you for wanting to leave. Ultimately you need to do what's right for you.
I did a quick search, and I found this link that has some info about HIV transmission laws in the UK.
http://www.gmfa.org.uk/sex/hivandaids/hiv-and-the-law
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