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writes:hi im 16 an me an my boyfriend have been together for a year now. we r happy.i am on a college course but not enjoying it and am decided to quit an start a new course which starts in april that im really keen to do!however when i told my boyfriend he is not giving me support. he just says' well this course has been a complete waste of time then!' an when i say i want to go travelling he says ' well u want be able to afford it' etc.i like having ambitions but whenever i tell him them he always says something wrong with them and i end up not doing them :( :(i want support like i am getting from my family from him! :( i dont know why but it upset me becasue he's not giving me any support.wouldnt a boyfriend that loves u give u support in anything u do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): Go for it! Don't blame him too much. He may feel ( although maybe his fault) left behind. It's his fault, just talk to the guy. He wants all the best for you in the long run!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 Yes! A boyfriend who is matured and loving would do the utmost to make you happy and support you all the way .You can discuss your problems with him but if his reasons are valid then you will have to accept his thinkings.
If you think he has no grounds to object or frivolous, then he is most probably a possessive b/f who would not want you out of his sight for fear of losing you.
You do what you feel is right with or without his support.
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reader, SilverSong86  +, writes (8 January 2008):
Unfortunately, I understand very well how that feels... Mine does the same thing. I think the best thing is just for you to be honest with him. He may not realize that he's being so negative. Make sure you make it clear just how important this is to you so that he doesn't treat it trivially and perhaps he will change. Unfortuntately, some people are just negative and unsupportive by nature so there might not be anything you can do. You're still young though so don't give up hope. If he's not the one, you'll find someone much better who will lift you to be all that you can be. I, personally, still believe that the one you love should support you unless you're doing something that may endanger you.
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