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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been married a little over a year now and we are both soldiers and might be for a while(meaning frequent seperation) We are both deployed and I love my husband very much! But when I get home I don't know how to trust myself? Will it be like this every time he deploys? Though what is funny I am not concerned when I deploy only when I get home! Why is this? And how do I trust myself more? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 "If you love a person , you must let him go , if he comes back , then he is yours."
With that you would be better placed to learn to trust him.If you had not trusted him , you would not have married him.Build on this foundation .You need to learn to accept whatever happens and not be too judgmental on yourself.
When you are at home , you are all alone and not the same as being deployed where you enjoy the camaraderie with your fellow soldiers.
Being at home is a time to enjoy your own private life.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 Hi,
you are a little vague in what happens when you get home. do you mean that you are unfaithful to him when you are home or merely thinking about it?
If you actually are unfaithful then you need to get some counselling, you are in a stressful job as a soldier and the seperation from your loved one places a desire for comfort and security which is missing when you return to an empty house.
If you are only thinking about it, then you should try and occupy your time when you get back, see friends, family and indulge in hobbies and pursuits which will keep you busy.
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