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writes:I'm 17 and a virgin, I've been madly deeply jealous of people who is sexual active around my age. You can say it's good to save V card to the right person, but wait, the right person could possibly be hooking up with some guys now. So what ? Get over it, the past is the past ? That's so unfair, it isn't right for people to tell other people to save V card while they don't nor didn't. Trust me, feelings of being a virgin is even worse than feelings of losing it to wrong person. At least, they have fun when they have sex though, so yea. What's the good reason to not be jealous of people who's not a virgin ?and How do you lose your virginity at the age of 17 as I'm not a bad boy ? I mean 99% girls prefer bad guys at this age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow am I suffering from being a 17 virgin ?
Well I'm afraid I won't find any equal-sexual-past girlfriend. Like I said, my right person could possibly be hooking up with some guys now. I mean I could be the only virgin in my class though. That's suffering.
I'm grateful that you tried to understand me as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): Maybe he's "suffering" because a 17yo boy has about the same sex drive as a woman at the height of her sexual life.
Most of the women I know in their mid-30s would be in pretty bad shape if they had never been able to lose their virginity and had no reason to think it was even coming any time soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Celiaaletta.
I have been suffered from being virgin and inexperience.
Yes, This is why I feel bad, I'm inexpirience too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): I'll bet this whole problem would go away if someone could just guarantee the OP that he would eventually find "the right girl" for him and she would be a virgin too.
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be  +, writes (18 January 2010):
 Well said, celiaaletta!
Ok, ignore anonymous males 1+2: they're quite clearly idiots.
First off, I'm going to just make it clear that I, personally, am right there with you. Heck, assuming you've actually been in a relationship, you've got one up on me!
The really important thing is not to dwell on it. Don't make the assumption that you're missing out, and don't make the assumption that the "right person" is hooking up with people left right and centre. If it's bothering you, concentrate on other things: studies at school, or your job, or a hobby. Spend time with the friends that you know won't drift from you if things go bad, and take life as it comes: don't start fighting it just to accomplish this one little thing, or it'll screw you over (perhaps literally) and you'll end up in a worse place than before. You don't want herpes, do you?
Just bear in mind that you're not the only one: others have to endure this too. If you go on believing that someday, the right person WILL come along, then I can guarentee that they will.
The moment you stop believing that, you may as well find a brothel and move in.
All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for answering.
I agree with Ask oldersister that some risks those problems, but most them are fine. I'm pointing at those people who have no problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): "they have fun when they have sex though, so yea. " You honestly don't know anything about that, as most people your age also LIE a lot about what they are really experiencing.
How you can loose your virginity? Find a girl who's willing to sleep with you then, if in your mind all girls sleep around. You sure come off as you think everyone has sex but you. Its simply not true, many people wait with loosing their virginity. And as for "the right person", that is completely dependent on what YOU feel! Do you feel like waiting? Dont do it if you dont want to. Do you feel that first chance to get sex is the right time to have sex, then go for it. But if you feel that you want to be comfortable with the person you have sex with, be in love etc etc, then you have to wait a little longer.
I personally would have loved to be able to wait until the "right one" came along, but I didn't get into a serious relationship until I was 19, and Im like you, I didnt want to wait. I didn't have a boyfriend, I wasnt popular, and I didn't know how long it would take for the "right one" to come along. Sex was horrible though. Not particularly fun. Didn't start turning great until about 2 years after I lost my virginity and coincidentally enough was with my first serious boyfriend. But each to his own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): Let me talk to you straight. I don't know if you're purposely saving it, or not, because it's definitely perfectly normal for a GUY to not be ABLE to loose his virginity at that age (watch "Super Bad", it'll make you feel better), but I don't think anyone will be able to give you a satisfactory answer to your question. If you can't answer it yourself, then you should not be saving your "V card". Sex is great, no matter what anyone says, even if its someone you don't care about, its still great. If you are able to have sex and you have no good reason not to do it, then do it (but, and I can't stress this enough, USE PROTECTION). Either way, you'll always remember your first time, no matter how much you cared about her. Contrary to what I expect most people to say: Your first time will ALWAYS be the right person.............. (as long as its not a prostitute or something crazy like that)
As to your second question (how you get laid at 17) only two types of people get laid at 17: the extremely confident, and those who find a girl they have a real connection with. Unless you're extremely confident, make friends with girls and try to make a connection with them. That skill will last a lifetime, a lot longer than the confidence high school guys have.
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reader, catee +, writes (18 January 2010):
You think that 17 year old girls like the bad guy image? Well, there, you're wrong! Most girls (speaking as one myself) like guys that are genuinely nice to them, it's not how you act in class or when you're with your friends, it's how you act when you're with her? Get what I mean? Most girls dream about having a boyfriend who will lend them his coat in the cold or take her for long walks and hold her hand. Seriously, girls tend to be driven away from the bad boy image, makes us think that theres something to worry about.
Back to you're question about virginity, you should protect it wherever you can! There are a lot of people out in the world that didn't and most likely regret it, your virginity is most definately something you should be proud of for having kept. It doesn't matter what all of your friends are doing, it's about falling in love for the first time and being completely adament that the person you're doing it with, loves you back. You shouldn't be jealous of the people who have already had sex, losing it a young age can be difficult. You need to wait until you've found the right person and make sure that you want to do it, don't be encouraged into having sex unless YOU want to,don't be pressurised, it's your virginity, no one elses.
Good luck with any decisions that you make, I wish you the best ! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): Nice guys finish last.
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