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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years; since we were both nineteen. And he's been in jail for the last year for a crime he did not commit. In fact, it was a crime his best friend committed but he died because of it.I am currently working on becoming a Physician and I do visit my boyfriend as often as I can. He has the possibility of parole in another year and if he does not make it out then, he will not have another parole opportunity until his fifth year in. His sentence is fifteen years in total.The last few times I have visited, he has told me to move on because he will not be able to give me the life I want at the times I want. My family and most of my friends have also told me I should move on because not only is he deemed a "criminal" now but there are no guarantees he will get out before his sentence is over.My father has even told me he wants to be able to brag about the kind of guy I have met but simply can not do that when my boyfriend is in jail. I told them it is not about what he did (in this case, did NOT do), it is about who he is inside. My boyfriend is a fantastic man and would never think to hurt me but I have been getting several offers for dates with other men and I am already a third-way through my medical training.I refuse to cheat on my boyfriend, though. I am not that kind of woman. I also do not think I am in love with him, but he is really a sweet guy. My main concern is what he will be like once he gets out of jail. Will he have changed? So, I guess all I am really asking is, should I, in fact, move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): my boy freind an i have only been datin awhile (few months) im not sure either if i love him yet but i wanna be with him he may or may not even get out its all or nothin but i kno i wanna be with him so im goin to wait for him i talked to one guy once but i didnt feel rite bout it but my man he never changed !! never while hes been in there
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reader, ownpool +, writes (5 May 2009):
If you want to be a physician, it will be very bad for your career to be married to a convicted felon. Also, he is not such a nice guy if he was "best friends" with a felon. In Califoria if you help someone commit a felony and anyone dies because of it, even if you didn't kill him, you are guilty of murder.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (5 May 2009):
 Right right. He didn't do it. Just couldn't convince a jury, a judge, the jury at the appeal, the judge at the appeal etc etc.
But he is innocent. Just somebody else did it who died.
Well okay, stranger things have happened.
It doesn't seem that you are in love with him, if that love just died because he went inside it means you never loved him. If there is no love then what will be there for you two if you decide to wait?
Move on, tell him the truth and accept that some will call you shallow.
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