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writes:Alright, my ex and I broke up this past summer. Even though I knew it was the right decision, I took it very hard and asked her back. It was clear that she had moved on and so I decided to do the same. I cut off all contact with her and surrounded myself with people and activities. During this time I met alot of great people and had so much fun. I now know more than ever the type of person I am looking for in a relationship and that she was not it. Just before Christmas I received a text from her stating that she wishes me the best and that I deserve all good things that come to me-I am going into a new job. She also wrote that there is no need to respond unless I wanted to, so I just ignored it.Three weeks later, I received another text and she said she really hoped I was doing good and she was really pushing for us to be friends. What gives with this? I have ignored her again but it really kind of got under my skin. Did she wait 5 months to text to allow us both time to move on? I am not sure I trust her reasons for texting me. ANy insight would be apprecited, thanks
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (6 January 2008):
 Dude, here is the best advice I can give you. I say this because it's happend to me in the past. Whatever person she moved on to, has not panned out regardless of motive or reason. You MAY be the guy she thinks about on those long nights when she harkens back to the bridges she burned. God knows I still do that with past loves and I'm in my 40's.
BUT.....
Something got to her at Christmas...guilt maybe?
Maybe she knows you are in a better place financially than you previously were and wants some Gravy Train. Whatever happened, all I can say is DON'T DO IT!
The Holiday"I hope you are dong well" sounds like she listened to Dan Fogelberg's "Another Auld Lang Syne" too many times as the snow fell on a Sunday afternoon when she was alone. Anyway, look forward. You have your memories, good and bad. Take what you want from this post, and leave the rest. The memories of good times are something you can hold in your heart and keep to yourself, and no one can take them from you, ever. But Turning around now and rekindling it poses more dilemma down the road.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): I'm going thru the same thing here. It's strange, I'm not sure about your situation but I would be questioning her motives. If you are happy, tell her so and take her number off your fone. There is a programme for cell fones that you can block callers of your choice. Seems cruel. You wont know if she's calling u and it should give her the hint. She cud still contact u via another fone but not likely. She may realise she made a mistake leaving u but unless deep down u r interested in her tell her to stop otherwise you will end up with three very unhappy people who will go on to make more people unhappy. Some people are not satisfied if they give you up and you get over it too easily you have, by accepting the situation,hurt her ego.
So tell her to back off... difficult but....
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reader, maggie1987  +, writes (4 January 2008):
 well maybe shes being sincere and genuine but maybe shes not she could be just wanting you because your getting a new job or maybe because she has got no one else trust what you think is in ur heart good luck x
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