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writes:Ok, so I just left a relationship with one of my best friends. We've known each other for a few years, and a few years ago we made out for a bit, but I was with my 1st boyfriend at the time and wanted it to work out. Unfortunately it didn't and we broke up 2 years later. So me and my friend are starting to get close again, but he has a girlfriend. I soon get in my 2nd relationship, but due to his mental issues I left him. Shortly afterwards me and my good friend decided to hook up, even though he is still with his girlfriend. He remained faithful to her except for the exception of me and 1 other girl once. His fiance and he have a lot of issues in the bedroom. I thought it would just be physical between us, but we started getting feelings for each other. I know he loves me and that he'd die for me, but I broke it off with him after 4 months. I know it's not fair to me to keep giving him my all when he's gonna marry someone who I don't think is a good match for him. I want to be angry at him, but all I can do is cry and wish my longing for him would go away. Any tips to make the time go by? Some people found out about us, and some say she'll find out before the weeding in 3 months. He makes me so happy, why does this have to happen?
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reader, confuzzled_in_cville +, writes (22 May 2010):
confuzzled_in_cville is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the advice. I just have to wait for the days to go by, but I'm tryna stay busy.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 May 2010):
"He remained faithful to her except for you and one other girl".
What a wonderful way of covering up for him. HE'S A CHEAT. And you're a part of hurting a woman now, who he is going to marry. This guy has played you all like violins. You'd be insane to do anything with him now, considering he's used you, another girl and a woman he even promised to marry. What a lovely chap. I'd suggest you see this guy for what he is, which is a lying sneaky cheat who doesn't care about anyone except himself. After all, if he really loved you, and really cared for you,he would have been with you. He wouldn't have just used you and two other women. And stop thinking he's been faithful too. He's not, he's a cheat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): Hello,
You've made the right decision. If he's unable to give himself to you, then why bother. He's going to get married and that says a lot obout his character. He's cheating. If she's not a good match for him its up to him to end it.
Bottomline is you deserve to have someone who can give himself to you, be committed to you.
Keep busy. Go out with friends, keep occupied. Take it one day at a time...
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