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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly two years. He's messy, disorganized, a bit hyper, and really bad at time management. He can be impulsive sometimes too. I always just figured that that was due to his age, and he would grow out of it, or at least learn some organizational and time management skills. I recently found out that he had ADD as a child and took medication for it. This doesn't bother me much, seeing as I take medication for an anxiety disorder. In reality, nothing he does really bothers me at all, except for his poor grades. That bothers me quite a bit because he is extremely intelligent and articulate, and brilliant in math. But I'm helping him get organised, stay on task, and get his schoolwork done. We have planned to get married, and I really think he is the one for me. He is absolutely perfect for me. So my question is, what should I expect from him as an adult?Does anyone have any experience with this, or have ADD? Any advice/ opinion is appreciated! Reply to this Question
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reader, Milo117  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 i have ADD( attention deficit disorder) and turns out i am extremely allergic to the main ingredient in the medicine for itAnd (although a bit younger) i can say that he wont act like a child all the time and run around the house or throw tantroms. i'm the most mature out of all my friends i just have trouble sitting still for long periods of time and have to have things to amuse myself most of the time. Which yes is a bit childish but hey. My advice is to help him deal with his work in small chunks and constantly verbally reward him my girlfriend does this to me a lot. I'll get distraced from school work and start Instant Messaging her, while she is in her lesson. i'm supposed to be studying, she tell's me to get the work done and then we can talk, so i do the work she finishes her lesson and i get a kiss a hug and sometimes a lot more :) Break his work down, into smaller segments, so it's easy to deal with.About the things that you can expect when he is older? i'm not sure, i always assumed it would affect him less, with time, this is the case with me. hope this helps
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