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writes:My girlfriend has dumped me and it's because of my ex. She is going out with my friend, well ex friend now, and she split us up by spreading rumours. I threatened to kill her boyfreind. What should I say to my ex girlfreind?
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reader, WastedLife  +, writes (22 May 2008):
Threatening to kill anyone will scare the girl and maybe get you arrested - definitely a bad idea. If anything happens to the guy, no matter what, you will be the first suspect.
The best thing, although VERY difficult, is to let her go, dump/ignore your friend that is doing her, and be friendly to her. Your "friend" has no allegiance and you are better off without him, but be friendly if you see him with her. Act like it's OK - almost like you feel sorry for him, but not like it's good. THEN, find another girlfriend. Keep everything casual, and ultimately you MAY get in the position that she approaches you again. Regardless, you have a gf and are therefore attractive to women again. Think carefully as to if you even want her back. If she is really special, you will have to spend a long time getting her back, and the odds are against you, and if you don't have another gf, she will see you as less of a guy. Don't ask - women think differently. Good luck.
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reader, Jules22 +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Threataning to kill her boyfriend definately wasn't a good move. this probabley encouraged her even more. try to not let it show that she is getting to you. if you retaliate it is giving her exactly what she wants. maby try sayin somthing nice i dont know the situation so that might not be a good idea. explain to your current girlfriend what part of the rumers are true. tell the truth because if your ex is spreading secrets and stuff you told her when you were together it is best not to lie because she will almost certainley know you are lieing or find out you are lieing and that will make the whole situation a lot worse.
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