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writes:This guy invited me to his house the next time I'll be home (which will be around Easter). He hasn't said what we'd be doing; he just said perhaps the next time I'm home we can just meet at his house. I'm hoping we watch a movie or have dinner or something like that.Two questions:1) He's a very shy, polite older man. I am shy, too. Does this invitation just mean he wants sex or he just wants to hang out? We've been good friends for about five years and have gone out for lunch a few times.2) What kinds of moves do guys make that alert the woman that he wants to have sex? The only touching he's done is a quick pat on the back; not even a hug. So what kind of moves would this guy make that would let me know he wants to do more than hang out at his house?BTW - he's 59 and I'm 25 (I know, I know, but I enjoy his company)
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reader, Johnnyboy03 +, writes (15 March 2009):
 haha, well keep me updated on how it goes. Feel free to send me a personal message.If he starts to get too touchy to soon, you will just have to tell him you like him, but you don't want to move that quickly.I hope everything works out for you! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi johnnyboy03,
Yeah, when I told him over the email that I was coming home for Easter he said it was "good news" and to let him know when I'd be in town and practically told me he'd be off the entire time I'll be home; something he's never done before. It sounds like he really wants to see me; perhaps on more than one occasion (I hope!) I do plan on trying to break the touch barrier on him; I think that would get him out of his shyness. But then I'll have to watch out if I do that and he does in fact like me, I may open up a hornet's nest, LOL.
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reader, Johnnyboy03 +, writes (15 March 2009):
I'm actually the anon below. I answered this before I created my account. I'm fairly certain he likes you. The balls in your court to how receptive you are. Don't be afraid to touch and tease him back if you are interested. That will let him know you are and help ease him out of his shyness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe does tease me an awful lot, especially in emails (not sure if that's cause he's shy, the fact that we live so far away from each other, or a little bit of both). But his flirting and teasing sure make me feel good :) This may be naive of me to say, but I think it's so cute how a much older man is flirting and teasing a young woman like he was a teenager again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): I don't know if there is any universal signal for what a guy will do when he wants sex. It's likely he is interested in you if he is inviting you to his house if he is as shy as you say he is. He may not want sex, at least maybe not right away. Maybe he does want a relationship though?
If you don't want a relationship with him. Just tell him if he tries to kiss you or something. I'm no expert on shy men, but I'm certain they still try some type of build up? personally, if I am interested in a girl I flirt and tease them, touch their arm when talking, or take their hand. Whisper in their ear etc. Then talk about kissing them before I actually do it to see how responsive they are.
If he shows any of these signals, he's probably interested in you. But, if he's really shy, I don't know.
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