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anonymous
writes:As a general question - what are people's opinions on a relationship between two teenagers with a three year age gap (not sexual)?e.g a 14 year old and a 17 year old? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): 2 of my close friends got together when they were this age (at school, she was 14, he was 17) they have been together over 35yrs. not sure about the sex thing with them, but i reckon you need to be careful, if he really loves you then he will wait until you are old enough.
if not there are plenty more people about, and if at any point you feel pressured its not worth it anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): hi my first boyfriend (non-sexual)was 17 and when i was 14. it did not last and i was forced to break up from him becuase my mom and other people didnt like it. it broke my heart and it still hurts. it hurt so bad that i only recently feel able to talk to him again after 2years. if you are sure that this can work then yes there is nothing wrong with a non-sexual 1.
hope this helped
love hannah xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): hi,
i honestly dont think theres anything wrong with a non-sexuial relationship between a 14 and 17 years...but if there is sex involved then no because the 14yr. is under 16 and the 17yr. is older than 16yr. and that would be consitered statitory rape!
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (10 June 2008):
 Yes girls mature more than boys
But try and have a non-sexual relationship with a horny (yes 99.9% are) 17 year old boy, and you may fail. He may be the nicest guy ever (i dont know) but think, will he wait until hes 19 to start having a sexual relationship with you?
Also how long will it last?
BUT if he is truely gonna wait until your legal, theres no problem
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (10 June 2008):
 As a female, I can understand why you would want to date someone older than you as you feel boys your age are immature.
At the same time, there are differences between a 14 and 17 year old, in general. There is a lot of development between these years such as emotional and cognitive.
The age gap can cause problems later as he will turn 18 and you will be 15. Then this becomes an illeagal relationship if it were to turn sexual.
As for now, you might feel pressured to do things that some 17 year olds are doing and that can be a problem. If you arent ready for those kinds of things, then some boys will tell you either you show me you are ready or "I will just find someone who is old enough to do this." You need to grow up at your own pace and shouldnt feel pressured to try to be 17 when you are not. Lastly, looking back, 17 year old boys are immature and many are out there to get one thing.
If you continue to date this person, keep an eye out for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): The age gap is not strange or surprising to me, as girls often mature quicker then boys.
I suggest you just be carefull not to be pressurised in doing anything you are not happy or comfortable witt.
Enjoy and have fun!
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