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writes:Hi, Please help me.I am a 34 year old single female.There's a guy whom I've known for 2 years.I have never seen him in real.He is an elder brother of a friend of mine.I have seen my friend not this guy.he was working overseas and we have talked through skype.he is very decent, has never said ' i love u' or anything related to love, but he has sent me emoticons that are hearts, he has told me about his family, how he struggle to help his family and so on.I am still confused whether he loves me or not. once i wanted to marry while i was also abroad (not the country he was)Then i told him that i want to marry. He asked me if i hadn't found a good guy to marry. aren't there good bachelors in the country i lived. I told him that if he marries me he would get visa to wok over there which is a better country than where he worked. Then he refused it. he said "oh i can't marry now and i have many other works to do before marriage".Later he was deported from that country. I also had to come back to my country where both of us live at the moment. Yesterday, he called me and asked "don't you want us to meet each other?" I told him to come to my house. Then he said "that should be done officially with parents and we should meet before that and let him know when I go out". My parents don't let me go out alone. Besides, I have no feeling for this guy who refused me once. Yet I think he has hopes about me. Do you have any idea what this guy up to is? He contacted me once in a blue moon saying he was busy when he was abroad. Even now no text, no mails, hardly any call apart from the one he made yesterday. I don't think I can live with such a dull person. I should say he is a handsome guy who seems to be decent. Do you have any opinion? Should I ask him what he is up to? At the moment he is jobless. He has no enough education to get a decent job either. Thank you in advance.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 If you feel he is dull and you cant live with him then let him go!
This relationship you guys have does not sound very solid so is there any point pursuing this? the last thing anyone wants is to be unhappily married.
I personally feel a person needs to spend time with another to gauge what they are really about. This means going out for dates etc
I hope this helps!
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reader, mammaboo +, writes (23 November 2011):
 Sounds like his plans have not worked and he is looking to maybe get together with you somehow.
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