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writes:hey, i need help! im a 16 yr old girl. i was in love with a guy, proper in love, we had soo many gd times together bt now all ive got is a broken heart. he used to tell me he loved me and that i was 'the one'. and i believed him and fell for him. we broke up nearly a month ago, he said he wanted to just b friends because it wasnt the same anymore, but he had replaced me within days of us breaking up. i still love him soo much and im rli hurting, an someone tell me the best and the quickest way to get over a boy? thank you xx
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reader, Bdavis414  +, writes (6 November 2012):
Every girl is going to get her heart broken. It's probably one of the hardest things to go through in life. Every girl has their own story and their own pain, but we're all very similar.
In my opinion the most important part of getting over a boy is, don't you DARE shut yourself down and refuse to love again. Please don't put a wall up. It's incredibly hard to break down and you may miss some great opportunities along the way.
I know this from experience, I shut myself down for five years. I'm 19 and still in love with that same boy and finally realizing I have to move on and open myself up again.
Get some good friends or good family members and just smile and enjoy life. You will never be 16 again. It goes by so fast. There will be a million and one guys for you but there is only one YOU. Stay true to that and I promise you, you will be fine. Us girls gotta stick together ;)
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reader, golfchick12 +, writes (20 February 2010):
I have the same exact question. I was with this guy for only 3 months but fell for him so quickly. He told me he loved me and never felt that way for any other girl. Then all the sudden he ended it and blamed it on sports and that he needed to focus he even cried when he told me a little. So I don't understand how a couple days after he told me.. the second excuse was "lost feelings".. ??? I need some advice to get over him because im still hurting. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): It was fours ago people, so don't have to worry about helping her, but it's good you are posting advice here. My last two boyfriends told me I was that they wanted to be with forever. Eh, they let me because I finally told them that I'd do anything for them. I get dumped the next day or the same day. :D
Relationships are hard, but they bring good memories. Cherish what you have now, but don't be too clingy with your current lover. Be yourself. :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): Well first you need to realize that he is gone, you should realize that he isn't there anymore. just know that theres tons of guys out there that will stay w/you through the thicks & thins but was he the one that was there through those time? you seem very young, you have so many time in life to find someone like him. right now, just let go..maybe go out w/your friends & have a nigght out! do something you really wanted to do & prove to him that he have left someone that he probably regret. do something that will make you happy but something that won't hurt yourself! :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): I know its hard getting over a boy... Trust me I know how it feels. Just hang out with friends and get some advice from them or someone that you trust then you might feel a lot better. Don't just sit around and cry or eat a bunch of unhealthy snacks... Be the smart and strong girl that you are and someone will come along and sweep you off your feet... But remember love before you fall in love.!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): there is people here saying things about dignity and things like that but the truth is, the feeling of wanting him back and not over him can only be replaced by someone else, find someone else or even wait until your over him and dont get involved with anyone. even that is hard, i always find myself crying randomly but just replace them and wish em the worst!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): the same thing has happened to me before and im only 14. get over him now and dont go back to him. if he hurt you badly before he will do it again BELIEVE ME.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): i was in love with this guy and i was 16. i really thought he was differnt, turned ut he was like all the rest. in fact worse. You just gotta tell yourself to get over him. You cant make him love you, you just have to accept it and move on. Ok, so he gets another girl, big woop! I bet she doesnt even come close to you. Go out with friends more, and maybe go out on a few dates with ome other guys. Try not to think about him. Look at it as his loss, your gain. There is plenty more fish in the sea, and where only young. If you want to cry then cry. if you get it all out in the open you will feel much better. Good luck. :) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Hey..
so i'm in the same situation. i'm 15 and a sophomore, and i was with the same boy for 10 months. then he out of nowhere broke up with me for my best friend. but she doesn't even like him. and to be honest, this is so hard to get over. i try not to think about him, maybe try dating one of his friends, or change yourself. try starting a new slate. but be careful, cuz that one backfired on me. (i went from blonde to this reddy purple color for my hair n all he did has shake his head and go back to talking to his friends |3) stay in there, and fight for yr man. (: hope i helped.
AshleyAirhead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): hey babe
yea i know all about it too
Im still madly in love with my ex but he is with another girl
you shuld have a girly night with your best friends :)
If you see him around then you shuld pretend you are over him even if you are not yet
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gd luck and it will get better each day promise xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): Yes, I recently have been diagnosed with this problem. This boy is in the year below me, and we went out and he finsihed with me cos it wasn't the same for him anymore, and basically the way i am getting over him is easy for me, but maybe wont be the same for you...
1. It was snowing today, so i made loads of snowballs, and took my anger out by smashing them at his face.
2. Think about liking some-one else, make it a flirt with some-one in your class. And even though it's harsh, date some-one else, and he WILL get jealous and come running back.
3. Just play it cool, don't make yourself look upset about the break-up, just make it look like "Whatever you do isn't going to bring me down."
Hope this helped :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): my advice 2 you is if he replaced you within days he obviously didn't love you so you should just replace him and see him running back 2 you but don't let him just back into your heart so quick actually think if he is worth your love all im saying is if he broke your heart once how do you know he wont do it again think about it. don't waste your time on loving someone who isn't going to love you back its a waste of tears x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): i just got out of a year relationship. i am heartbroken. but just keep with your friends. maybe he will come back to you. maybe not. be strong, keep busy. focus on school etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): i have tried this be4 and this has worked. i hope it works 4 u 2.1. try to think of all the bad things of him2. find someone else who may not be the cutest but the nicest3. if all else fails HAVE FUN AND BE YOUR SELF you dont need a relationship
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reader, Megaf +, writes (10 October 2009):
If you dont get over him now ,when he flirts with and you fall for him he gonna hurt you again
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reader, Megaf +, writes (10 October 2009):
...I'm 14 I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend ,my mind keep's telling me dnt fall 4 him later on he ganna hurt u,me and him started 2 flirt later he just stabbes me telling me he wos just joking about and he wos like you was joking about aswell and I was like yea (but in my heart I wasnt I really loved him and now I dont want to ever talk 2 him again because he just starts to flip and cuz'z me I was crying my sister saw me crying she helped me )boyz they love you but they can get over you in a second but us girls it takes us decades 2 get over it and yeah this month 4th october was the month he asked me out I cant believe I still remember
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): i've had a crush on a boy for 10months now.
hes in all my classes. and its so hard! in this 10months he's had 3 different beautiful girlfriends, and i really didnt think i had a chance. for the first few months i went about it all completely wrong! i flirted with him TOO MUCH, and he actually hated me! a few months later i calmed down, and we started to bond. at the moment we're best friends, and everyone knows how close we are, we tell each other everything and i can trust him with anything. but a few nights ago it was magical! he told me he fancied me, but he told people he didnt? i was confused. I got his best mate to tell me the truth it was that he would go out with me, but he didnt properly 'love me'. i let it die down, and now i know he does love me. he came over to me HUGGED me and told me he liked me. it was amazing. there was nothing better! to get a boy to like you - smile, make casual conversation, dont talk to much and follow him this will scare him off. be friendly with his mates. tell him you might have feelings for someone else, this shows ur hard to get. if someone else flirts with him stay carm so he doesn't think you care. if hes fit and is popular - even better! keep carm. you cant have a proper relationship with this 'love' if you arn't good friends first! if you are scared that when you break up you would have ruined the friendship DONT BE. if he's true and caring for you, he will want to stay close to you, and then just start all over again. dont wait for him to ask you out, he might be waiting for you. ask him out, tell him you love him, if he's a gorgeous nice boy, he'll want you back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Time heals every womb.
just give it time that's what i did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): you should move on, i just got dumped for no descent reason but you just have to keep your head held high and even though you've lost a boy you havent lost your dignity. :) :) :) :) :) :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): yeahh , i was in the same situation you have to deal with it and believe in yourself, and that you worth better, all boys are the same they tell you they love you , then god knows,, they are pathetic to be honest , and everything happens for a reason, they expect you to wait for them, but dont honestly :)
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reader, tammeirra +, writes (14 June 2009):
to be truely honest, if you feel what you felt for the boy was true, there is no way or strategy of getting over him quick, it shows that when you feel something for a boy your feelings are true and meaningful and when you give that part of your self and he takes advantage of the feelings you expressed to him tells me yes he wasnt worthit but it still doesnt erase the memmories where he made you feel something no one could. In my advice the way to get over a boy is to work through your memmories cherish the good times and learn from the bad. Once you have did that its time to start accepting...healing and then moving on slowly and remmember no need to rush your a woman worth waiting for, and if you dont come to terms with that then you will wait a long time to truly pass this heartbreak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): wow thats the same exzact thing that happened to me and im 16 to i gave this boy everything ,i gaveup my friends i stoped spending time with my family i basically sat around and waited for him and everyone was telling me that i shouldnt be wasteing my time on just one person because im 16 and if he breaksup with me i will be lost,and they were right a week ago he called me and told me his feeling have changed .but trust me that is just excuse because just like your story my exboyfriend replaced me in a few days to and you know the funny thing he wanted to keep me on as a friend,reallty all guys want to keep you as a friend for is to keep you on the side.my best advice for you is to be single work on yourself find something that truly makes you happy,but im not going to be the one to tell you to get over him becaus eits hard it will take time,but i bet you are a pretty girl and you deserve better,people from are past dont make it to are future for a reason:)goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): hey am a "broken heart" girl too..
u knw what? Boys in our age are so very immature..
They deserve nothing specially our luv..
We have sooo many things to give them like our heart, our kisses, our hugs, and especially, US!
Think, they DO NOT deserve all those things..
My opinion is that at our age, 13-17 year old is the easiest part to fall in luv..And sooner or later "the luv of our lives" will dumb us. We are gonna cry and cry and cry.
But live your life now you are young. Do not look for "the one".
Look for teenage firts and fun stuff.
Know what?
When the FAIRYTALE stops, life starts:D
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): Hey well what can i say its really hard to forget about someone you love soo much =/
well i was with this guy for 2yrs and like 5months i love him and i can say he loved me we were both really happy together nothing mattered when we were around each other yes we did have our little arguments just like any other couples and we broke up like once or twice but would talk about it and be back together,well after we graduated high school last june he moved for college in august this is were it all started =( i would always complain to him that he never had time for me and he would tell me sorry its just i have so much homework to do and all that soo we would get in many arguments because of distance when he would come to see me we didnt care about anything we would both me together and very happy until like almost 2months ago we broke up once again but we didnt get back this time he told me that he just wanted to forget about everything and start new soo he broke up with me :'( yet i still love him a lot he change soo much like from day to another we also seen each other like 2 weeks ago and we had a good talk he told me he loved me and missed me soo much and he wanted to be with me but this time he wanted to take things slow soo we decided to do that well when he went back to school the next day he then told me again just forget it i want to start new make new friends i want to be single and all the problem is i love him soo much and he broke my heart and im really afraid he has another girl since i seen some comment some athor girl sent him asking him for some other girl i just cant take it and do know what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): Hey babe!! i'm going through the exact same thing as you right now. Wen i read your problem i sware it was me lol. Its soo hard for me atm and i heard his getting with this girl in my year and we only broke up like 3 weeks ago. Its hard but you just gta be close with your mates and form more relationships. Maybe even have a break from boys coz you don't wanna get hurt again. Wen ever you start thinking bout him just say to yourself that your strong coz you really are. No girls need a boy in their life to make everyrthing better. Trust me you will be fine just try and stop thinking bout him.
xxxxxxxxxx good luck xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): Hey Im Bel, i have the same problem im meant to be going out with this guy, ive been out with him before and now ive finally got him back, i love him so much.
he asked me back out about 3 weeks ago and i finished my boyfriend to get back with him, hes in the army so i hardly see him but when hes at home he never comes to see me, he never rings me and today my mate saw two girls in his car today instead of him coming to see me.
i dont even know if im with him anymore hes just blanking me.
all i can say is the only way of getting over some dick thats treated you like shit is to just go out with someone else then your start liking him and eventully your start to forget about your ex, keep saying to yourself all the things you hated about him.
i know how you feel hunni.
Bel 16. x
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reader, ihatemylieingex19 +, writes (12 May 2009):
i really do feel for you babee! i've been with this boy on and off for 2 years and i was 100% in love with him. and then recently i lost my virginity to him. then next weekend he cheated on me, then lied about it and when he finally told the truth he broke up with me. i can't eat, i can't sleep and can't stop feeling like shit and crying. also my gcses start in days!!! all my friends say that he will come back but i can't help thinking he won't and even if he does i won't be able to say no and i no i should becuase hes been such a dick. my friends have been amazing though, if it wasn't for them who knows what could of happened!! i hope things get better for you honey :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): i looked at that story and it was exactly the same situation as mine i went out with this boy for 6 months he finished me saturday and yesterday he got someone new but i really dont get him wen i go up to see my mates where they live hel drive thru and hel come up at about 10 at night and hel stare At me i couldnt belive hes got someone already when i found out ttears came flooding down my face iv not eaten in 3dayz i dont no wat to do im doin well not talking to him or loooking at him my mates tell me that hel probz figure out wat hes lost and ask you back the thing i want to be able to do is say no.my mates are all i need now i suggest you stick by your mates x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): sometimes the only way you can get over someone is with time. They say that time is a healer and this is true. I feel head over heels for a guy once. When we had a one night stand and he never wanted me again this cut me into pieces. But given time i got over him. I think about it now and say to my self god was i relly that silly thast i couldent see what he was. When you are in love you always look at the good points and he seems perfect but when you look at the bigger picture you realise that he is not so perfect. So all you need is time and you will get over it. Just be patient
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): well if the boy broke your heart then don't worry about the boy he is just waste of time
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): if you are really heart broken over him tell him but if you dont have the guts try to do something to distract your thoughts and if that still dont work well think of all the horrid things hes put you through just think that you even put a quastion for help on her so he must have xcooped really low just make sure he knows what he's missing and what he has done to you
hope this helped!!1
From Amy age 11
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): well i had an awful week this week, i wetn out with this boy i had been liking for ages. i was really happy( this was on Monday) anyway he finished me the next day because say one of my friends that liked him found out, they would probarbly bully me. anyway i was really upset when he got his best friend to do it for him. He phoned me that night and said sorry, i was his friend again, just like that but, i have to be honest i still have feelings for him. i LOVE him. Anyway last night he got with this girl who i actually hateee, please tell me what to do, i havent cried this much in agess!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): the best way to get over a boy...is to get UNDER another one! so go have a one night stand :) it'll ease the pain for an hour or so!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): the best and quicket way to get over this boy is just think of all the flaws in him, hes obviously not the nicest of guys if he's managed to break your heart so easilyy.. and it's a big shame because you do not deserve to be treated in this waay. I'm going through a similar situiationn.. i had been going out with this guy for about three months, until i met this other guy.. i thought i was so in love with him, and i dumped my other boyfriend. me and this new guy i loved started going out, but just last night he dumped me after a week, wanting to be just friends. so now i have nothing, which i deservee :). just rememberr people are in the samee boat as youu, chin up x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): Hey, there is really know way of getting over a boy in a short amount of time as we all would like to. Tbh ive been through so much with this one boy my first proper love and all and im 16 aswell but like its not so great we broke up got back together broke up. I still cant get my head around getting over him.Things what really get to me is seeing hearing things about how he has been with someother girls, it hurts to be honest. The more we think about that person the more we want them back, which is not good as look at all the things they put you through, the best thing i find is to think of all the things they have put you through and DONT just become friends with him as it only makes it harder, get rid of all contact with him no matter how hard it is, it will only be harder if you keep running back. Dont get revenge try make him jealouse of what he missing as really he most likely dont care and you dont want him back, one day in his own time he will realise you dont need to help him in anyway. Go out more see friends make your self busy so you dont find not always foocused on what he is doing and what he might be up to. Get rid of anything he gave you, so nothing can remind you of him. Write a letter of all your feelings addressed to him and rip it up and then you make a new fresh start. Btw your not the only one feeling like this so lets not all feel sorry for ours selfs and lets do something about it, as they dont care how you are feeling at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): heeey.
I was in the same situation last week. I broke up with this boy and then we stayed good mates but months later one of my best mates fancied him, at the time i didnt care, so i set them up and suddently i got these feelings come all rushing back. I had no idea what to do and started acting stupid around my mate, then we realized that it was stupid to fall out over a silly boy, i let her stay with him but this is how i got over him ...
* Think about what he did to you, how he broke your heart and how you can do alot better
* Its okay to stay mates with him but you need to get over him! Try out over lads and see what they are like. You'll never know until you try
* It's not bad being single, infact I am right now and the only thing I care about is my mates.
A week later i got over the boy and everytime i saw them together i didnt get jealous, infact 4 other boys asked me out so it was soo bad
Good Luck!
Byeee
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): hello :) right first of all dont show him you care, because he will know hes got you rapped round his little finger, first of all stlil be his friend by talking to him, cause you cant make it to obvious. Then when hes near talk to his mate be a little flirty, and i donno maybe start meeting his mate, he'll realise what hes lost then and soon come running back. Honest boys are like that they always want what they cant have. Just show you dont care! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): hey :)
i noe how you feel... you think theyre the one, theyre gna spend the rest of their life wiv you, they only love you nd nobody else, then you get dumped and all of a sudden hes gone.
you sound like a wonderdful person, nd i dnt think tat boy noes wat he has just left. i fink you should just carry on life wiv a smile, forget him, lifes too short to cry over someone lyk him.
hes reely harsh to go out wiv someone else a few days later i fink you hav realised tat he can be the cutest, sweetest, nicest, greatest, most romantic,
most insensitive jerk u have ever met.
hope you feel better xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): hi. i was searching the internet for answers myself on how to get over an ex bf. The thing is when i was readin your answer i couldn't get over how similar our positions are. i split from my bf about a month ago, 2nd time around. its not that i didnt wanna be with him its just he seemed so distant so i decide to make a stupid decision and let him go. the only problem is that 3 weeks on and i cnt get him out of my head. he came round to see my brother the other day, me thinking this is it back togetehr soon... how wrong was i?!?!? later that night he introduced me 2 his new gf. i meen cum on abit harsh?? truth is i have no idea how to get over him but all i can suggest is that you do things to take your mind offf it. its bound 2 b hard at 1st but things will get easier.. go out with friends thats a real uplift i promise you that go out and have fun check boys out chat with them, even flirt a little, instead of moping around the house just hopin he will cum and sweep you off your fedet. because the truth is if he didnt stay around long enough to see your past, then he definatly doesnt deserve to be in your future. moving on will be hard but there willl be other boys who will mark a deeper mark than the last and pretty soon you will find the one who understands you completly. when you find him dont let him go. one more thing its been proven that if you stop lookin for mr right then he will come to you. lots of love ncj x xx x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): Aww thats sad. And i know exactly what you feel. Im feeling to too, right not exact. Its actually a really long complicated story with the boy that i can get over at the mo. And the thing is, is that he acts like such a dick to me. And he just controls me, has me whenever he wants and when he doesnt want me he breaks my heart. And i let him do this to me, i let him make me like him then i let him just go and come back when he wants. And i tell my friends about there all just like OMG what the hell just let him go, move on, and there all like why can you even let him do that to you? but the thing is that i just cant get over him. i like him sooo much. all of me just wants him and only a part of him just wants me.i need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009): Well this happened to a friend of mine a couple days back and she is really going through her own personal hell as a "friend" is now dating him. My advice is really however hard it is to try and ignore him. It WILL be hard and you WILL still be upset for a while so busy yourself with other stuff. Have you friends round, go to a cinema.But DONT obsess about him and his new "thing" okay.Most of all in my opinion however mad you are you shouldn't saboutage his relationship because he will probably do it himself. Get your OWN BACK!!!! When you are ready find a guy who will care for you and likes you for YOU!! Then the "Ex" will feel stupid for letting you go and you will be happy with a better man :)So go out there and HAVE FUN!!!Forget about him for a while with your friend Good luck :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): iyaaaa :]i understand Exactlyy where this 16 year old is coming from. I meen im going throught Exactlyy the same Problem. But it's not the first time it's happend, and proberly not tha last either! But my answer to your question would bee veryy Simular too the rest. ''Just blank him completley. Dont be mean and nasty, if a Conversation happens to Occur and you feel uncomfortable, then just say your busy. In school if your in any Subjects with him, dont Just sit there feeling sorry for yourself and DONT showoff. Just be yourself and let him see on what he's missing out on. Dont expect this to happen in all of 3 days. It could take some time. So just be paitent :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): time heals all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): Hey Poster,
This article is from one of DearCupid's uncles.Please do check it out.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): You can easliy forget him by moving on and talking to other boys. I know it's not easy but once he sees you don't care about him or forgot about him, he might even start liking you again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): hey guys, i totally understand how you feel. me and this guy had been "talking" for a few months...well he lived kind of far from me, so i visited and well things went down..but i was just so happy to see him, and i was sure that something was going to come of it, like a relationship, but no. when i got back home, he treated me differently, like total shit. and then like yesterday he was like, lets be friends. im like, crying my eyes out because i wanted so much more. it hurts. bad. all i want to do is sleep and cry. because he's already seeing other girls. but i think the best thing to do is just be his friend, and just show him that youre havin a good time without him. if it was meant to be, he'll come back to you eventually. and then you'll be strong enough to turn him down. go out with your friends, and look for other guys because im sure he wasnt that great. why would you want someone who doesnt want you back anyway you know? good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): ive been through your sittuation many times darling and i no how it feels it hurts Alot but the best thing you can do is erase his number , dont dream about him , think about him , look on his myspace /bebo /facebook , chuck away all photos of you too together and live you life to the extreme get out there and have dun theres plenty of fishes in the sea , and i no your probably thinking but i dont wnat to move on i dont want another fish (boy ) i want him , but lets face it he doesnt want you so move on girl .
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): im like madly inlove with this boy we went out for 2 years on and i dumped him because he wasnt like talking to me and i asked him for a break just to like start to talk again and then he said he didtn want the break and went out with my best friend, and i need to get over him and dont know haw too what can i do ive gone out with other boys but it hasnt made a difference i still love him and i dont know what to do, help me please? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Hi,i am 19 years old i have been with my bf for 4years now.the first two yaers were magical.recently he has changed.we fight alot!he even hit me once when we were fighting.the problem is that i think that he and his sister-inlaw areto close.she does as if he is her bf.she is married to his brither.when i spoke to my bf about it he said i am jealous and couple of times he just stopped talking to mehe tells me he loves me but he doesnt show affection.i dont know what to do because i love him alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): Hi(:
I think the only way to really get over a guy, is to find another. Its the only way really. Loves just a never ending spiral of days when you feel amazing, and ones when your heartbroken. This is until you find that 'one'.
So i say all you can do is continue, and find someone else(:
..It may take a while to get over this person.. even once youve found another. But you cant help that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): hun i had the same thing happen 2 me i still love n wat u shud do is just dnt think bout him n get someoneelse
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): im am goin throgh the same thang and its hard to get over a boy.cause im trying right not bt its not working.try nt 2 think bout him or talk to him an if still cant get over him den tell him how u feel maybe things will work out.
good look
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): Hiyaa i just read your story and i think its ver sad =[.But you should try your best to get over him.If hes fine without you then you should be fine without him.Dont let him get to you.You only live once.Theres plenty more boys out there and yor still very young, so go out and start getting to know other boys, you will start to find it easier.Remember times a healer,it will get better. =].
Xx.
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reader, supergrove +, writes (30 May 2008):
i know how you feel i went out with this guy for 4 months we were both head over hill about each other. he also used to tell me that i was the one and he wanted to marry and me and spend the rest of his life with me. he was so lovely he used tell me he loved me so much and he never ever wanted to lose me or let me go. but over the chirstmas hoilday i saw him we had a huge fight over that fact i couldn't see him as much cuz i was going away this chirstmas hoilday. so i went away and i hadn't spoken to him while i was away but wen i came back i found and email on my bebo saying from him that he couldn't do it no more and that he wanted to break up. he still wanted to be friends but i just couldn't do it. but then a week down the line i found out while i was on hoilday he was seeing my best friend in college. i was so mad i couldn't believe it my own best friendbut to get over a guy is to forget and live life their loads of guys out their. you've got to find him i never give up even tho i was in love wiv him i always have hope that some one will come a long and he would be just as g8 as the last guy i had .so get over a guy go out with you m8s have fun live life to the full. go partying meet new guys chat flirt and just for get about him to be honesty if he loved you that much he wouldn't had found a new girl in weeks after you've broken up so he aint worth crying over or even thinking bout. cuz i tell you wot he aint thinking bout you. i know it sound hash but it true you need to get one with you life and find some one better then him. wish you the best of luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Oh my god! Same. I went away for a week and before that i met up with my boyfriend (well ex boyfriend) and he was like 'i love sooo much, your the only one for me' ect and i let myself fall in love with him. I loved him alo, more then i've loved anyone for a while, i though it was perfect.... and he said that he would text me and everything. But like when i went he was like going to town and stuff with these girls from another school who have a reputation of being majorly flirty, and him and one of them got along really well. So when i came back, he was acting soooooooo differently! It was like we didn't connect like we used to. And i was getting really upset about it, becuase he didn't really talk to me anymore, not the way we used to be. So had to say something (becuase he kinda did the same thing with his ex girlfriend - the one before me, and that did not end well at all!) So i said something, but he was like 'oh, i don't think theres anything wrong between us, i still love you like loads and loads' so i believed him and i said sorry to him, and he didn't even say sorry back even though he knew that i had found out that him and that girl were gettin quite close.
The next day i was still really upset, and he was still acting really weirdly. Later that evening, i recieved a text from him, the text that was going to ruin my life ... He said something like 'i've been thinking about what you have said, and i think we should break up. Hope we can still be friends X' I WAS LIKE SOOO SHOCKED! I COULD NOT STOP CRYING AT ALL! And i still can't, i think about what we had every single day and i still cry about it even though it was like over a month ago! It still really upsets me as i thought he was actually perfect :'(. So i asked him when he started to realise that things wern't 'the same'. He texted me back saying.... 'since you went away for the week'. I WAS SOOOOO ANGRY at the point. He changed him view of me, his feelings about me in over a WEEK! I cried to my friend and it was such a sad day. And like a few days later, he's telling this other girl that he liked her, no, that he LOVED her! Even though she had a boyfriend.
I know how you feel, its the world's WORST feeling ever to get dumped, espically if you really love/d this person .. like i did. I think the best thing to do is o get all the crying out of the way then start to move on with you like. Im saying this... but i can't even seem to do it myself :S
Hope this helps, knowing your not alone AT ALL
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): For me, its the same...Kinda. I broke up with my boyfriend because i felt better as friends but then he started flirting with other girls and it really hurt. There was nothing i could do because we broke up. He told everyone that he really loved me and i was soo special to him but he just moved on too fast. What im doing may not be the best way to get over him but its working for me. I'm flirting with guys right in front of him and telling myself i can do better, after a couple weeks i started to blieve. I hope it works for you, but thats how i did it so...could luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): For me, its the same...Kinda. I broke up with my boyfriend because i felt better as friends but then he started flirting with other girls and it really hurt. There was nothing i could do because we broke up. He told everyone that he really loved me and i was soo special to him but he just moved on to fast. What im doing may not be the best way to get over him but its working for me. I'm flirting with guys right infront of him and telling myself i can do better, after a couple weeks i started to blieve. I hope it works for you, but thats how i did it so...could luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): yea that kinda happened to me... i was going out with some one for like 4 months and we broke up like 2 and half months ago and i still havent gotten over him :[ no one knows how i still feel about him because i know the only advice they could give me is the same thing everyone says, just not to talk to him or think about him. i liked this kid so much i did everything i could for him , and he cheated on my three times but i forgave him because i really liked him, but my jealous side came out when he would hang out with other girls and everything and i had no trust for him. when we fought i just didnt know what to do and he never realized how much it hurt me having him dump me..but now it seems like everything that happens reminds me of him. and worst of all my friend of 10 years is going out with him.. we're not friends anymore and i feel really backstabbed... if anyone has any advicee or somthingg it would be really helpful .. thanks:]
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): exactly the same thing happened to me. hang out with your mates, gets your mind off the bastard. try not to dwell on it like i was and still am cos its not helping. i refer to him as ****. that helps with my anger! haha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): try to stop thinkin about him .....do somthing that intrests yew the most and spand more times with your frends dnt be sad that itz over be happy dat it happened..........ask ur frendz for more advise.
hope i helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): heyy i no how you feel im a 'break' with my bf and im having the same problem
one way to get over him show him your happy and you dont need him
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): i know exactly what you are talking about. i went out with this boy for 4 months, not that long, but i was in love. All my friends said "you don't know what love is your only 15. but when you know, you know. trust me. we fought alot but nothing big. we broke up just over 2 months ago. i cry every single night, i don't do anything the same. i miss him so much, i wait for him to call every night but he doesn't. no ones advice helps, but i hope mine will. i am still in love with him, and my life has changed so much since we broke up. i even hooked up with another guy to get over him but it just made me miss him more. don't write 10 things down about how he isn't worth it cause then you'll feel guilty. don't try and forget about him, because you shouldn't ignore people that were put in your path, because they were put there for a reason.
you don't need to get over him, theres no rule. take all the time in the world. im still friends with him, and most people would think thats bad, but its better than not talking to him at all. so best way to get over him? not to. you will on your own don't force it, it will take a LOOONG time but it will eventually happen, don't go looking for another boy, concentrate on what matters: school friends ect, he will come to you. trust me:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): yea me and my boyfriend broke up like 2 months ago and we were going out for like 8 months .. once we broke up i thought it would be better since we fought all the time but it wasnt. i went out with someone else to try and get ver him nd it didnt really work ... i broke up up with the other kid because i didnt have any feelings for him anymore and all i could think about was my other ex . i dont know why i cant get over him because this hasnt happened before. and seeing him with other girls in the halls and him and my friend since i have known since i was bron were hooking up for like a month and it made me so depressed i couldnt even deal with it anymore, but now everyone tells me im acting different ecause i cant get over him and im not really happy anymore nd i have no idea what to do :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Just do what he did find somebody else like he did cause i was in a same situation but the boy we were really close friends and he asked me to go wit him and i did not anwser so to him that was a yes and a no.But after that we became closer but one day i was out of school sick and he asked my best friend/sister to go wit him after she had broke up with his best friend /brother and she said yes so now they go together.And me and his best friend/brother are off and on going together. But the way i got over it was just go your separte ways and now i am about to leave to go to live in california and he calls me and tells me he is going to miss me and i asked he why now why miss me now you did not before when you asked my best friend/sister to go wit you and he explained why so i said ok and i was thinking he still has feelings for me and i askd him did he still have feelings for me and he told the truth and said yes i do he told me he can't stop thinking about me and girl he is going wit is nothing better than me. Last we went to a movie and he tried to kiss me isn't that something after all that he tried to kiss me. SHAME! But the best way is to go your separte ways!
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reader, jenxleigh +, writes (13 March 2008):
 hey , like alot of poeple say. it takes time, yes it will be hard in the beginning but you have too move on. Your going to have to go out with your freinds and hang with other boys. Try as hard as you can not to think about him. I would remove all the pictures or anything else you have with him , too try and forget about it all. Everything happens for a reason, so clearly it was not supposed to be. in a few months if you still find your self stuck on him i think you should tell him how you feel, give him a call.
- there are some good songs, quotes that are helpful also.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): hi i havent long turned 17 like a week ago lolz.. enyway i had a bf we was going out 2 years and a half and out of the blue he dumped me!!
i was soo heart broken i didnt know what to do.. i cryed 4 days.
but bout 2 months after he gota gf i was like omg what the hell.. soo i thaught to myself y am i sittin here crying when hes got another girl??
so i piked my self up and looked 4 a boy..i found one amazing boy he treats me right and everything you could want from a boy..:D
n now the boy i was with 4 nearly 3 yrs has dumped his gf and is saying his heads all messed up and he loves me still haha..
sooo i guess the answer is get a new bf.. but saying that i still have feelings 4 that boy they dont go easy
hope this has helped love jodiee xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): hey...=]
am 16 year old and i have had a few boyfriends but none of them were really anythin specail.
but i started tokin to this boy that i used to really like again, we were just txtin n he phned me sumtimes, but he asked me up to his house i went, and he was always hugging me n kissing me,that was about a week ago and i havent heard from him since and i know a week isnt a long time but we used to text each other all the time, and its reeli hard coz i reeli like him and he told me he reeli liked me, and i guesse a was just stupid enough to believe him...i have told my best friend whats goin on and hes reeli helpin me, teling me i can do better, i suppose all we can do is let time fix it, and listen to our friends. but i dont think its a good idea to go into another realation ship just to get over him because that boy you use to do that might end up just as hurt as you are now...good luck chick xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): I no how you feel completely, the best thing to do is to,go out with the girls you love(best mates ) or family, who ever you feel very happy with do something you'd never do before, when you were with him,like jump out of a helicopter (lol suggestion), if you do it it will be a way of letting him go, and not needing him,write down 10 things why he isn't worth it before you go out, have fun!The worst thing you can do is act like your bothered and hurt, just act asif he is totally not worth the hassle, and think that to yourself, lots of luve .x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): hello x
i feel really sorry for you, the best way i find, is have a group of your best mates over with some chickflicks, PJ day, ice cream, popcorn ect ect, Makeovers, that sort of thing usually helps me
i am just trying to get over a heartbreak issue too xx
good lucck !
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): I know its hard and people will say oh just stop thinking about him but you cant because you genuinely loved him. But he can break up and move on so quickly , why cant you? Be friends with him and you know what, show him what he is missing !
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): stop thinking about him,
if it didnt work the firt time why would it work the second?
dont stress yourself over ir
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Of course breaking up with someone is going to be hard there is no way of getting over someone quickly but there are some things to help it hurt less, I just recently broke up with my fiancee, I was and still am madly in love with him but things just weren't working out. Yes I cried my eyes out for days, stayed in my pyjamas for basically a week and felt sorry for myself, thats the worst part over what to do next is to meet your friends in town get your hair done, get a new outfit get a new look, hit the town flirt with all the guys you see and soon you'll be wondering what have I been doing for the past however long? because when you do this you'll see there are just as many guys waiting out there just wanting to talk to you and get to know you. It really does help to find someone new just to text and take your mind off things and then you'll realise your not waiting by the phone for your ex to call anymore, your waiting for your new guy to call,thats when you know things are gettin better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): i am 15 and i was soo in love wid this boy i was going out wid him in october last yr and he dumped me the day before it would have been a month and i suppose i never really showed him enough love which still gets me sad but i suppose you never realise what you had untill it has gone and i really do no wot its all about i have cried so many times over this boy and i just cant take it anymore really it hurts me having to see him every single day i see him and it makes me hurt deep down inside and hearing his voice louder above a crowded class room but he does not want to no me anymore i am just a blurred vision for that boy the thing that annyos me most is that most adults do not remember how hard it is to be in love at this age and they just tell us to move on but what if we are really stuck what do we do i am stuck in this situatuon and i realy do not no what to do anymore it brings me down to feel this way and i just cant handle this any longer
my friends tell me to go for this outher boy that likes me but i do not think i am ready i do not no wot to do eny longer all i remember was all the good tyms but i am scared and i need some good advice please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2008): I know exactly how your felling.
I had a boyfried, but he dumped me twice!
I was heart-broken.
He always told me that he loved me, and that i wasn't like any of his other gf.
My freinds helped me throught it.
i got over him, and i feel great!
you just have to tell yourself, that you dont need him.
i know it hard, but you will eventaully get over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): I'm 20 i was with my boyfriend for two years and ten months we broke up two months before our three years. He was my first boyfriend, my first love, my first everything. i loved him so much. But he constantly brought me down. Honestly getting over someone is not easy. It takes time. It takes a long time. I wanted to be with him so bad i went to him and begged for him to come back. He told me he had been with two other girls already and such. My heart felt like it was being torn out. I cried and cried. You tell yourself you don't need him. You tell yourself he wasn't worth it. But guess what in the end it doesn't work. You have to get them out of your lives entirely. Don't pick up if he calls. don't go to places that he might be at. Don't talk to his friends. You have to ignore everything a 100 percent if you don't you will be constantly reminded constantly going back. Yes even doing this; you will think about him once in a while but as the weeks go by. It'll slowly fade away with new memories.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): ok to get ova a boy is quite hard especially if uve bin with him 4 a while but u have to follow the cliches of how to get ova him. you are obviously guna hurt n everything but i feel to get over him you firstly need to block him out of your mind. then you need to get a really soppy movie or a rerun like friends or the vicar of dibly summin like dat n just have a good cry eat chocolatte or ice cream and chill give ya self a makeover. when u have got over the crying bit you need to go out on a girly day out go shopping or something and have fun even flirt with other boys if you feel up to it then go to someones house for a sleepover and do the reruns and everything again have a makeover n do hobbys and things you enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): Im 16 I have been with my boyfriend 2 years well it would be today, he broke up with me 2days ago. He said if he did it now then it wouldn't hurt me as much. I asked him why he wanted to and he just said he is getting bored of me because all we do it stay at his house. I said i often ask you if you wanna go for a walk and he did once down the beach at sunset thats were we first kissed.. I was 14 then. After he dumped me the day it would of been 2years he got a girlfriend and said hes going to start a new life the same day he started one with me. After a few days he told me he had dumped her and wanted to get back together. I said ok and we did. Later on tho I heard his phone go off he told me not to get it but i was just going to say who it was off. I soon found out it was off his so called Ex girlfriend who he was with when we first broke up. I read it wonderin what it said... it said " hey baby, cant wait for tonight i have brought a new outfit and i have got a few more toys..." I asked him what it was about. I Soon found out not only was he cheating on us both but he was still sleeping with her when he asked me out.
I dunno what to do... do i get revenge or do i ust leave it. My heart hurts so much. An i still love him so much i just dont think he realises!
Help ='[
Scarlet
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): WELL IM IN THE EXACT SITUATION AS YOU AND TO BE HONEST IM NOT TO SURE WHAT TO DO I THINK YOU NEED TO BE BUSY ALL THE TIME GO OUT HAVE A GOOD TIME AND TRY NOT TO THINK ABOUT IT AND MAYBE TO MOVE ON FROM HIM YOU NEED TO FIND SOMEONE NEW BECAUSE FOR ME WHEN I THINK IVE MOVED ON SOMETHING ALWAYS HAPPENS TO MAKE ME MISS THE BOY BUT YOU JUST NED TO HAVE FUN YOUR YOUNG AND WE SHOULDNT BE STRESSED OUT ITS ABOUT HAVING A GOOD TIME(please use lower case next time)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007): hiya...im 14 and i might seem young but believe me when i say i no how you feel!during the summer i went to irish colage and well i really liked this guy and he liked me too...less then a week into it he started texting me nd stuff and after the ceili one night i met him and that night he asked me to go with him but i didn't get the message till the next day becouse they used to take our fones off us at night...that next day i didn't talk to him much and i guess he thought i didn't like him!anyway it turned out he liked this other girl too and for the next week he went out with her...it was the most deppressing week of my life,turned out he got sick of her becouse she wouldn't meet him and he was telling the girls in my house that he really liked me again... then when that girl finaly met him he broke up with her it was kind of unfair but i was delighted!he asked me to meet him again but i wasn't sure... well i said i would nd i did and that last week was the best iv ever had he kept asking me to go out with him but i didn't trust him so i kept making up excuses...on the last night there was a disco haha,it was unreal! that night when we were walking home the he was kind of hinting towards asking me out one last time and he did and i thought to myself...well if hes asking me out now and its the end of i.colage then hes not just useing me and he didn't just want someone while he was there so i said ya...i couldn't have been happier either!.......we left for home early the next morning i think it was wednesday and we had an irish colage re-union that friday anyway between that day and the end of july i only saw him 3 times becouse i wasn't in cork all summer and then we broke up cos we said there was no point cos i wasn't in cork for any of august but we were going to get back together after the summer anyway he text me that night but it was for another girl asking to go out with him i got really pissed of and i said i wasn't geting back with him...when i got back to cork after the summer he asked me if he had a chance and i kept saying mabye i dont no and then he stoped...im still in love,the days i spent with him were the best im still not over it and im far from it i just wanted to tell you my story so that you no your not the only one out there...and dont worry it will pass in time even i can say that and believe me it really helps jus to have good friends that will be there for you when your down and cheer you up and jus to get ur mind of him think about other guys that u'd like and remember everything happens 4 a reason like,as much as you don't want to hear this you're probably noy ment to be together after all and u'll accept that over time...dont worry about it your going to find someone better!remember at the end of the day hes not worth your tears or your miserie...u'll be grand,hope i helped xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): Sometimes fallin in love is faster than fallin out of love, but trust me no man is worth crying over. I was going out with this guy that meant the world to me we broke up 6 months ago and im more in love now than ever and he also loves me too but he did things that really hurt me so i have to give my self respect as well as you .
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): This is what everyone forgets to do........... STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM............... when you get those thoughts in your head about all of the good times you two shared change subjects.......... its hard but if you pratice it you'll get used to not thinking about him ne more......... theres no such thing as quickly getting over someone if you want me to be honest with you.... im sorry its just not......... unless magically someone else more loveable then him comes into the picture......... do things that you wish you could do that you couldnt when u two were together.. whats wrong with a little flirting.... but have some self control.... go treat yourself to something nice, take a nice aromic bath with some nice soap or bath salts...... make sure its hot so you can relieve some of that tension...... even if when you get out he's still on your mind you'll feel alot better...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): Me and my boyfriend broke up two weeks ago..we wer like best friends and it was such a shock..now all he does is go out with his mates.. thats what you should do.. we was together 15 months. and now i feel like we shudnt break up.. but its life and u learn from experiences. If hes with another girl already is he reali worth it?? i dont think so.. download pussy cat girls song i dont need a man.. and leanne rhyms song life goes on! it helps!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): that must b so horrible. Something like that happened to me the boy i was really in love with a boy and one day i looked out my form romm window and saw him walking along wit another gal and his back was to the window and the girl was in front of him and i saw him bend over so of course i thought they were snogging and then when i saw them walkin bac then she went up against a wall and their heads were really close. Im not the stalkin type but im glad i saw what i did in a way. But when he got on the bus he looked straight past and i still havnt said anythin and this happened on the 2nd of november!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): Sounds like a real problem, but you just should go out and have the most fun you can! Hang out with big groups of girls and guys, and just don't spend time alone at home doing nothing, thinking about it!!
Just remember, HAVE FUN!!
Best of luck!!! :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): well i know how u fell.. the same thing happend to me...
what helped me is i told him.. he said that he is sorry but dont he dont fill that way anymore... it hurts realy bad but it will get better some....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): I was with my boyfriend for 2 years and i split up with him 5 weeks ago i still love him so much and we have still been talkin but i made sure i didnt meet him because he has treated me like shit the hole time i was with him, for 2 years, lyeing , beat me up and he does loads of drugs. Even though i split up with him, i am so upset now he is seeing a 14 year old he is still texting me telling me he loves me even though he is with someone else. It is killing me but i no i dont wont to get back with him but i just cant forget him because he has been there for me through everything! Please help i dont no what to. I just need to get over him because i no he hasent worth it but i love him!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Hey! I'm so sorry about what happened! It's a lot to go through i know! I'm going through something like that right now! except in my case it was all my fault. So i have to live with the guilt as well. Even though I am truly sorry. The only advice I can give would be to give it time. If you want to get back together with him, give him time to miss you. Don't keep trying to talk to him. Just give it time. I know it's painful, but that is the only thing you can do. Life is hard at times, but your not alone. Try not to think about it. I wish you the best! xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): I can tell you the best way to get over him. Have lots of friends.D the same things you were doing before you met him so he would not cross your mind. Be a very outgoing person and trust me you will find someone better. Look at it this way the lord must've didn't want ya'll together because it didn't work. I lord has someone for everyone he is not the only one you will find someone better believe me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): i'm going through the same stage as you now, i have strong friends around me who hate him for what he did to me. Mine was abusive and totally knocked my confidence, at 14 you wouldn't expect this, but it happened to me. i deleted his number and cut myself off from him as much as i could. however 2 months on now i still can't get him out of my head, nor forget how much i love him despite what he did.
love is a tricky feeling to cope with, but my advise would be you can't "just be friends" you'll always feel more, so delete his number, msn, myspace, facebook + any other way of contacting. put pictures and memories and whatever else you may have that remind you of him in a box and give it to a close friend. this way they aren't lost forever hower you wont be able to get them out and look at them and remind you of him, but have them back in the future when you may want to look back on things.
then just go out with your friends on girly nights out and do whatever you can to have fun
make sure you talk about it with someone too, that helps so you aren't all bottled up
and what i found helped was making a list of his negative points (trust me the list is long) and just look at them when i start to think he is a nice guy.
i'm still not there but i'm hoping soon i will be able to move on
i hope everything goes okay
and that my advice helped you
remember though, you are never alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): what you need to do is: if you know for a fact you can't get over him, make him jealous. If he doesn't get jealous then try to get him out of your head and go out to meet guys. Don't try to look for a realationship, jus have fun. Every girl falls in love and gets the heart broken, so just show what u r made of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): i think the best way to get over a boy is by doing the things that interest you most. this way its taking your mind off of him. or you could even start up something new.either way its going to take a while for your heart to heal. just let it do it by itself, and if crying helps, just do it. ^^hope this helpedlittle miss carnagex
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): this is really silly but i went on holiday with my friend and i met a lad there in a bar that he works in and he just had the charms and we shared kisses but i know that was all he wanted he gav eme his e mail and hasnt replyed to any of my emails and im really falling for him i know its impossible because he lives in a different country but al ive got to tell my self is you learn from different people you've been with i try laugh it of and say yeah it was fun at the time he was nice and i will meet some1 else jus now im young im 16 andi will look back and think it was a fuin holiday and thats it so you girls shud nt stress out on those boys you think you can trust , you trust yourself what come around goes around it wil bite them on the arse 1 way your here for a reason in this world not for the reason for some nob to walk al over u
think about what i sed i hope i helped x x x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): well, if he cheated on you, or treated you like complete and utter pig shite, then i'd have a little revenge. Obviously its only short term gratification, but this is what i would do. ring him,(after u have not got in touch with him for awhile) and suggest a meeting at a hotel. Say you need to talk to him urgently. then, whilst you are in the room, old memories stirring, (amongst other things...) offer him a drink. slip a few laxatives in it, and lead him on, until... he runs for the toilet or hopefully, with a bit of luck shits himself. girlies, men are not all bad, some are lovely. but there are a few men out there who are complete ass holes.hell hath no fury like a woman scorned men!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): TIME TIME TIME come on girls, we naturally get attached to men and men naturally want to spread thier seed. The only way to get over him is TIME. You can't make him jelous, you cant win him back you just have to move on. As there is with death there are stages to getting over him.First stage - Hate- hang with your girls, talk about how men suckSecond stage - lonely - you want to find a dark corner to curl up and cry because you will never fall in love. This is were you depend on your people to keep you out of the dark corner.Third - Baby steps to reality - at some point you snap out of the curl up and cry stage usually because another guy will make a comment. Weather this is your next boyfriend or not, someone will say your cute, and you are back in the game. BUT why don't you skip these stages, remain confident though the whole thing, you will find someone else faster that way. Its just a matter of getting over them. Why are you crying if apparently they aren't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): well he obviously does not deserve you and he totally lead you on. if he easily replaced you within days and you're suffering how does that add up? If he supposeably loved you he would not have done that. you can do/deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): hey i am 13 and one of my very best friends is going through the same and i have bben with her through it all alls you need is somone thre for you and you always have to remember that everything happens for a reason you always will have moral support the greatest way to get over a boy is to think of all the bad you had with him and suddenly he doesnt seem like the prince charming you thought he was butif there was nothing bad about him just sit back with a friend and eat some chocolate and go with the flow see where the river takes you and avoid songs,scents, or anything that reminds you of him and also aviod any contact with him no msn emails hanging out ims or phone nothing seriously it helped my friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): Well, i am in the middle of a very nasty and very hurtfull break up right now. I have been with him for 2 years and he is the man of my dreams, i thought that the feeling was mutual up until about a month ago. It was like a kick in the stomach when he said that he just doesnt have anything left, he is empty inside, and cant offer anything to me. just a few months ago we were talking about getting married, and having a family, and all of a sudden it stopped. I have absolutly no idea where to go from here, i almost cant believe it is happening. now as of today i am moving out with not the slightest clue on where to go from here. i dont want to find someone else, because for the last 2 years i have planned my whole life with him.
Any ideas as to how to get over him without finding a rebound?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): So me and this guy have been talking on and off, and we've become really good friends and we even hooked up. But we both don't want a relationship and hes too much into his school team and friends and its so annoying. I just don't know. I keep telling myself that I don't like him but I think I just won't let myself. I really don't want too. I guess I just don't know what I want. Ugh. So yeah I want to get over him, cause I know its not going anywhere, he doesnt want a relationship and neither do I. It's too confusing. What do I do?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2007): hey i had the same thing happen to me 2 by the same guy i don't really know what you should do to get over him but i always turn to my friends and they will be there for you and you can find someone better
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2007): IM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING I AM A 15 YR OLD WHO JUST BROKE UP WITH HER BOYFRIEND 2 WEEKS AGO AND REPLACED ME THE NEXT DAY AND I LIKE HIM SO MUCH AND CANNOT GET OVER HIM YOU JUST NOT THINK ABOUT IT AND FIND A NEW GUY TO LIKE OR STEEL HIM BACK :)
ALEXIS
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): I had a boyfriend. I really liked him too. He used to be my friends old boyfriend. But she only thought she liked him. I liked him for two years. Than finally he actaully liked me. He liked to talk to me. We lasted for about a month but then in a cafeteria, he told me he didn't like me anymore. Turned out he liked another girl. Not even ine you could be reasonable about. He didn't care about me. At least that's how he was acting. Actually he was upset because he wanted to tell me himself. So one day at my friends house, we called him. We ended up fighting more than I could believe. I said I hated him. But somehow I liked him as much as I always had. Now I'm justs hurt. So I guess that the answer to the question is their isn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): You know I have the same problem as you. But I went out with him because I have to go with my sister. The boy that I like is my sister's current boyfriend. When I found out yesterday I was gutted. I am really finding it hard to get over him! But my advice for you is to ask him if he's happy with the person he's with and if he says yes then you should be happy for him. Sometimes if you really love someone you have to think about them before yourself. But hey if you're meant to be with him, love will lead you back. There's nothing fate can do to stop this! Always remember that! All the best of luck and I hope I helped you!! Anonymous xxx =D
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): You know I have the same problem as you. But I went out with him because I have to go with my sister. The boy that I like is my sister's current boyfriend. When I found out yesterday I was gutted. I am really finding it hard to get over him! But my advice for you is to ask him if he's happy with the person he's with and if he says yes then you sholud be happy for him. Sometimes if you really love someone you have to think about them before yourself. But hey if you're meant to be with him, love will lead you back. There's nothing fate can do to stop this! Always remember that! All the best of luck and I hope I helped you!! Anonymous xxx =D
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): You know I have the same problem as you. But I went out with him because I have to go with my sister. The boy that I like is not my sister's current boyfriend. When I found out yesterday I was gutted. I am really finding it hard to get over him! But my advice for you is to ask him if he's happy with the person he's with and if he says yes then you sholud be happy for him. Sometimes if you really love someone you have to think about them before yourself. But hey if you're meant to be with him, love will lead you back. There's nothing fate can do to stp this! Always remember that! All the best of luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): talk to him! tell him about your feelings. no offence to any boys out there but ladies you know how men can be. if he still wants to be your friend then that just means you're a toy that he's done playing with and he's put you in his little toy chest where you'll collect dust. so chicky if you talk to him and he still has no feelings for you then find someone new. Just always keep in mind that no man or boy is worth your tears and when you find someone who is he'll make sure you'll never cry.
also remember that most men are pigs and if you find one who's nice then pounce on him! (get to know him first of course) but there are guys out there who are nice. unfortunatly most i've seen are homosexual. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2007): hey . umm yeahh i like this boy and he used to like me untill he got a girl friend. who dumped him but now they are going back out again. i still like him a lot and stuff but i am just telling myself that there are other boys. i regret telling everyone that i didn't know if i liked him or not. but thats okay there will be other guys for you. ik you still might think that you still love him but all you can do is try and forget about him. good luckk! haha
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): heya my love thought that i would write back to you!.. dnt worri i have had the same problem, you just have to try and let it go past you, as much as you love them you have to realise(as much as it hurts) what they may not love you anymore, also they may want to see you hurt, thats what i had anyway!... but you have to stay strong and remember that your friends will always be there for you to help you get through it. i know it horrible but you need to try and move on otherwise you will regret it!.. remember grl.. dnt let him win!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): I would say the fastest way to get over a man is to start seeing someone else,Because it will take your mind off of the guy your in love with even thought you may still think of him from time to time but it will fade evenually trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): Same thing happened to me, I thought everything was perfect then all of a sudden...he broke my heart. The first thing u need to understand is that if he has got a girlfriend so soon after u...everything he dus wil most likely remind him of u, its not all going to be that simple. U were obvioulsy special to him. The best way to get over him is to find sum1 else..Dont rush into it, take it slow. I got dumped last month and itd been a year and iv found sum1 else hu i reli lyk, obvoiuosly alot of things remind me of him but i find it so much easier to just get on with life, I feel good that iv listened to ppl and notcied tht life does go on, thers no proper way of getting over a boy quikcer its just the way you do it.. some ppl donot find it easier to fins sum1 new, its dfiferent 4 a lot of ppl becoz it cud upset u even mor,, make sure u put evryfin tht reminds u of him away, dont throw them out as once ur over him ul want the happy memories...for example wat i hav dun, when me and my ex used to spend time togeyther we wud sit in my room and jus chat all night, once we finished pratically everyin i looked at reminded me of him, so i changed my room around nd then lata i swapped rooms becoz i didnt want the memories as its harder, hav a fresh new starrt, life dus go on and evryfin happens 4 a reason!! Thers pletny mor amazing boys out ther ...js find sum1 new hu wil treat u better then he did and respect u more :) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): Well..I have been in this kind of situation b4..I feel as though he was just using you..and he probably thought that he could get something out of you..and maybe when yall finally did get together he realized that you weren't exactly what he was looking for so he dropped you..and hard obviously..I know how that feels...have you tried confronting him or anything? Talk about it with him? Get him to confess things? I believe that you need to get some answers from him...ask him did he really mean what he said..and tell him how much your hurting he obviously doesn't understand.
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reader, S.U.B. +, writes (15 December 2006):
Tell him its just to hard to be friends cause you like him more than just a friend. That if he really loved you than he would feel the same way. Try to find someone else. I know its hard cause I'm going through the same thing.
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reader, fATTYNATTY +, writes (27 October 2006):
 lifes just begining so look at whats ahead pick your self up and go hang out with your friends im sure all your girls will offer a hug and a good chat anytime! :) your friends will always be there :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): Bobby she asked for the quickest, not the best. And so I gave her the quickest. But, if you read past that word you'll see I also said it was the worst way.
If someone read my advice and thought I meant "get in to another relationship as soon as possible" then they are just plain stupid.
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reader, afriend4u +, writes (8 October 2006):
 well, Bobbyjo ...i disagree ...
she should`t hurt him by geting in to another relationship ..i understand your view
but then why is has he "replaced" her ..thats is not nice ..he didnt care about her feeling?
..ps...have you tried jus sitting him down one time and talking to him ..letting him know how you feel ,,smetimes a little talk can help
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reader, Bobbyjo +, writes (7 October 2006):
 I would just like to say to you - please do not take Dr Petes advice and get straight into another relationship!!! Its not fair on on that other person or on yourself and will probably cause you more unnecessary heartache in the long run.
The best thing to do is put this boy to the back of your mind and go and have some fun with your friends. Trust me, I know this sounds like such a cliche but this is good advice that I was given when the boy I loved more then anyone dumped me for another girl. I went out with my friends, made new friends, started new hobbies with my friends and soon found myself not having any time to think about the boy.
You also need to tell yourself that although it was good while it lasted, it is over and time to move on. Dont ponder over it - just remeber the good times you shared and look forward to more good times with someone new x
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reader, afriend4u +, writes (7 October 2006):
well im a boy , 15.
and take it from me that most boys arn`t init for you personailty , they jus care about looks and sex..thats how most male minds work like , once there with some one they get bored,,
no offense guys but you know its true
Im only 15 i already know how cruel the world can be , getting over some one is not easy only time heals these wounds but even then they can be re cut again , liek if you see him with some one else.
What you need to do is , try to get in to another relationship
..you can play it 2 ways ..either sit there and cry over what happened or move on and get your own bak
and take this advice in life, never get to close until you know for sure that , that person loves you as much as you love them, and even then take time in a realtionship , see his attitude is
i my self am stuck in a situation were i no sme 1 for realyyyy long and we no everything about each other , like i mean really close , but i just aint got the guts to tel her
--anyways, ;p im not a girl as much as this advice souns liek its from a girl
take care ye x
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reader, browneyes +, writes (7 October 2006):
girl you really must snap out of it, hes gone. take yourself out clothes shopping perhaps with your mum or sister or even a close friend, have fun and spend the whole day.sounds to me like he had someone already and so he let you go, if he only wanted friendship he would be single.get yourself back on track, afterall if mr right comes along you wont realise as your waisting your emotions on someone who obviously didnt love you the way you deserve to be loved.go to collage make something of yourself study can take your mind off anything, and just think of the good job at the end of your studies. stay strong
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): The quickest way, but probably worst way, is to get straight in to another relationship. It's great for blocking out all those feelings of rejection. On the other hand, you're likely to pick up quite a heavy amount of emotional baggage on your life journey!
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reader, Katylouise +, writes (6 October 2006):
The exact same thing has happened to me but it happened four years ago. I was 16 when i got with my bf and 18 when we broke up and yeah i felt like my heart was ripping into shreds but i tell you what girl you get over it eventually now i know thats probably not what you wanted to hear but take it from a woman who knows.Im 22 now and ive been single ever since that ex bf and do you know what life is great i have the odd date and the odd kiss with guys i like but i come and go as i please with no one telling me what to do or where to go the single life is what you should be doing and if i could turn the clock back to when i was 16 thats exactly what id have done! Forget him be strong and tell yourself that you'll be with another nice guy when the time is right!
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (6 October 2006):
 Hi hunny,
I promise you that you will find someone one day who will completely sweep you off your feet and you will laugh at this bloke now.
For the time being though I suggest that you spend as much time with your girlmates as possible, have some fun!!!
Do not get involved with another boy until you feel that you are over your ex as it will only be a rebound.
Why dont you give yourself a makeover? change your image, that will make you feel better in yourself. Also why not focus on a new challenge like a new job or something, something that will take your mind off of him.
The only way to get over a man is to keep yourself busy and to remind yourself that it is his loss!!!
Goodluck hunny
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006): Hey I understand where your coming from BUT you are sooo young to be feeling like this!!
Its always hard to get over a guy no matter what age you are... The best thing to do is to go out, enjoy yourselves with your friends and let him kno that you can live with out him (even if your heart feels like its breaking inside of you)
Be strong, especially if he has replaced you... But don't just go with any guy that looks at you, you will only end up hurting more in the long run if you do that!!!
Take your time, take up new activites or something to take your mind off him. Avoid places that you know he's goin to be...
Best of luck with things..
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