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writes:I just wonder if most of what we call attraction is just our animal instincts to mate, and we call it love? Does anyone know what love is? I've heard it labelled so many things, anyways, I think I've found a girl im in love with but I am so afraid of being hurt again I don't think I can go through heart break again.Help me people,love ya, Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn +, writes (30 July 2009):
 I was trying to figure out what love is, why some make it and some go up in flames. I believe it's the choice behind the feelings. My definition of love is: "A choice without any return expectation."
This is how people make it. Hard time, economic loss, stress, etc. doesn't affect them because they work together to overcome the difficult, and never once question their love. I spoke to someone who was 85 years old and married for over 60 years. We talked about difficult times in marriage, she said, "just because I wanted to shoot him from time to time, doesn't mean I didn't love him." So being in love doesn't mean never facing difficulty. It's choosing not to let your bond tear during those times.
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reader, lonestarchalk1 +, writes (30 July 2009):
lonestarchalk1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks, for your suggestions and I do think I will go for it, we will be meeting for the first time next week so we will see how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): Love is about being there through the good times and the bad times,it is being able to forgive and being forgiven,it does not hold grudges,it accepts that nobody is perfect,it learns how to compromise at the hardest of times and it lasts a lifetime
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (30 July 2009):
 For a couple it goes like this;
Animal attraction = lust + chemistry =
=the spark attraction factor wears off (and one quickly or in a period of time moves onto their next prey.)
Love = the physical attraction + emotional attachment loyalty to only one lover which lasts forever in the heart.
this is the difference.
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reader, IamSoConfused +, writes (30 July 2009):
If you think you are in love then I would say go for it. If you don't you will be full of regret and that is possibly worse than getting your heart broken.
I say this from experience because my heart was broken literally yesterday and lost all of my friends because of it.
But at least I can tell myself that I tried my best and it didn't work out which is better in my mind than thinking I wish I would have tried at least but I was too scared.
The fact that it could work out and you could spend the rest of your life together is worth the risk in my mind to be honest. And if it doesn't work out it isn't the end of the world is it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): there is a difference between love and lust
lust is first attraction but love is more about staying there for the long run..the same morals ..(not just about the same hobbies etc)
like the same ideas about trust, commitment.. loving everything about her, not wanting her to change herself, caring for her etc, not just about how good looking she is.
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