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I am only 18 but would class myself as quite a mature person for my age and even though I haven't got a lot of life experience I enjoy helping people out.

I have recently made a big mistake but I have my whole life ahead of me so this will serve as a valuable life lesson so I don't repeat it again.

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I want to spend more time with my boyfriend. How do I get him to come over?

Q.   ok so me and my boyfriend has been dating for 6 mouths and he never wants to come over he says he loves me and i say it back and i want him to pay a little more attention to meh how do i do this ...

A.   10 August 2009: Ask him why he doesn't want to come over and tell him to compromise. Tell him he can't just spend all of his time with his friends or whatever and has to make time for you or you won't put up with it for much longer. Maybe he is scared of your ... (read in full...)

I can't cope having a purely physical relationship.

Q.   I know I'm young, so I'm not going to naively throw the word 'love' around, but if there ever was anyone, it would be him, I've had strong feelings for him for nearing 4 years now, we've always gotten on really well and known how we've felt about ...

A.   10 August 2009: You have to be strong and stand up for yourself. Try and slowly get back into your relationship and "allow" him certain things. If you feel it is getting too sexual you have to stop it if that isn't what you want. To be honest, I don't think yo... (read in full...)

I'm becoming attracted to me best friend's ex.

Q.   i've started flirting with my best friend's ex girl, i never thought of her as atractive till she told me about her sexual fantasies and such, now i feel like i'd love to tap that, but what do i do?...

A.   10 August 2009: Let the dust settle between your best friend and his ex then ask him for permission I guess. That or do it anyway and get in trouble if/when he finds out. Or just leave it be. Probably cause way less problems. ... (read in full...)

We get in fights all the time and don't have anything in common. what should I do?

Q.   Well.....everytime me n my ex BF Jon break up and we r friends in the beginning of the friendship but then later we'll get in fights a bout somthing stupid and idk why we always get in fights with each other after we break up.....it seems like the ...

A.   10 August 2009: Break up then? You are obviously not happy being with him and just get in fights over nothing because you broke up. I think a better question is why do you keep getting back together. Out of habit?... (read in full...)

Please help.. she tried to make me jealous I think, and it worked!

Q.   i am a 24 yrs old male. i had a sex with my coworker who already has 3 kids and is 29 yrs old. she is divoreced and loves sex. we had it for 3 times now.it was my 1st time in life that i had sex with her. but now, i think i am really serious with...

A.   10 August 2009: Wait.. you had sex with her and went to a bar with her and now you want to marry her? Why are you rushing into things? Take it slow with her, let your feelings grow slowly over time and maybe her feelings will as well. If not, it isn't as much of ... (read in full...)

Does my ex really love his new girlfriend?

Q.   Ok, well I'm new here. 6 months ago my heart was broken by a man I loved with all my heart. We had been arguing a bit more than usual, but we always got through it and he was as loving as ever, so it was a real surprise when he left me saying he ...

A.   10 August 2009: He is using her to try and make you jealous but you already knew that. He is possibly angry at you (I don't know the situation) and is using her against you because he has "moved on" and you haven't and is sticking it in your face when he really h... (read in full...)

Is she feeling regretful or guilty?

Q.   My partner of 17years left me. And I found out three weeks later she was with someone else. She has only tried to make contact one and I have not heard from her since. I think that she was cheating on me. What I cant understand is if she would be ...

A.   10 August 2009: Speak to her about it if possible and yeah she probably felt terrible if she was cheating on you. Some people manage to convince themselves that it is someone else's fault and so don't feel guilty. ... (read in full...)

Infatuated With The Wrong Girl - Wasting My Time And My Feelings.

Q.   18 months ago I became infatuated with a girl I had never met before. She is a wonderful person in every way and I completely adore every part of her. We have always been good friends and I have always pushed for more - something she has made clear ...

A.   10 August 2009: What you need to try and do is forget the old girl. No contact with her, delete pictures you have of her, get rid of things that remind you of her if possible. Things like that. Try getting with the other girl as that could make you see how much... (read in full...)

One week he wants me to never leave him, the next he ignores me, then he loves me,the next ignores me...??

Q.   I need advice or I might do the wrong thing..I met the perfect guy in Sept 08, he was engaged and has a 7yr old boy from another relationship.He always turned to me for help since the engagement wasnt going well and they used to fight a lot.He left ...

A.   10 August 2009: Keep doing it until he wants you back and SWEAR to him this is the very last chance he has. Don't get messed around by him. ... (read in full...)

I'm sick with worry that my parents will split!

Q.   My parents are starting to make me very nervous. They're going through a rough patch. I'm 20, and the idea of them breaking up terrifies me. They're currently in a long distance situation at the moment. My dad works away during the week, and is only ...

A.   1 August 2009: My own parents went through a horrible break up with my dad cheating on my mum. Everyday they would scream and shout at each other and I would just cry and cry. I was only 14 or so when it happened and lasted for almost half a year. I felt exa... (read in full...)

He put his penis inside me. Am I a virgin?

Q.   I was on my summer vacation and I was fooling around with the cutest guy and we got naked and all. He fingered me and one thing led to another and umm he put his penis in my vagina (his penis was maybe 9 cm long, I dunno and I'm a virgin, or at ...

A.   1 August 2009: If his penis was inside of you then you are not a virgin. I am sorry if that was not the answer you were looking for. It didn't hurt you because he probably was not fortunate in the penis department and the reason you didn't bleed was because ... (read in full...)

He's not texting so is he not interested? Do I forget him?

Q.   hi. i started talking to a guy i meant on a online site, and we exchange emails, and soon numbers. we texted everyday, with him texting me every day, and we would text alot throughout the day. we fell out a few times, but it was all forgotten, and ...

A.   31 July 2009: Yes you should forget him and move on. If he is really interested in you and wanted to be with you then he would contact you. I should probably take my own advice on this one as well so you are not alone :) Good luck. There will be othe... (read in full...)

How can I make this not hurt?

Q.   heyy. my name is C******, and i am 15. okay here's my question. -i like to masterbate the same as everone else does. i only like rubbing my clit though. well everone else can go inside the hole, i cant. well i can but it hurts, why? help me ... ...

A.   31 July 2009: Maybe you are not wet enough. Lube? Why is your name censored out when it is in your user name. Haha. Good luck? :)... (read in full...)

Could this be causing my premature ejaculation?

Q.   I suffer from frenulum breve and phimosis. My foreskin can just about be pulled down past my penis head and then my frenulum starts to pull my penis head downwards. Could this be why i suffer from premature ejaculation?...

A.   31 July 2009: Personally I would go see your doctor about this issue as you could get some wrong advice of people here who may not know what they are talking about. They would be able to help you better than anyone on here could. No-one needs to know th... (read in full...)

Do I risk the friendship by pushing him into romance?

Q.   I am a single mother of two children, never married full time student and full time employee and he is a single father of a handicap child stay at home dad with a side job/hobby of window treatments. We meet on a internet dating site which was set ...

A.   31 July 2009: Give it time and let your friendship develop. If things are still going well in a while then you can suggest starting a relationship together if he doesn't mention it already. Don't try to rush into a relationship with him because as you said it ... (read in full...)

How can I convince my fiance to perform on me?

Q.   My fiance has always told me " If it bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die, I'm not eatin' it!". Oral sex is something I personally have never experienced, and would like to. How can I convince my man of 20 years to try this with me, for it is a bad ...

A.   31 July 2009: Ask him what his problem is with it or just convince him that you are different. I don't know about his experience with the other girl but if she was not the cleanest person in the world then you can reassure him that you aren't like that. ... (read in full...)

He hasn't approached me for sex in a year, what's the problem?

Q.   I am really concerned about the lack of a sex life between my partner and I. We have been together for 2 years and are both in our early/mid thirties. We've only managed to have full penetrative sex twice since the start of the relationship as I ...

A.   31 July 2009: Keep trying to talk to him about it and reassure him that you would like to try again with it. He is probably scared that he will hurt you again and doesn't want that again. Maybe he is just so stressed by work and everything that this is not the ... (read in full...)

I broke up with the guy I had for the guy I wanted but he dosen't want me.

Q.   hi, i am phoebe and i am 17 years old. i was recently in a horrible love triangle and i haven't recovered yet. my friend set me up with this guy and he absolutely fell head-over-heals for me. but i didn't like him back. he was too sexual when he ...

A.   31 July 2009: Get a new hobby or something similar to take your mind of things. You might even make some new friends or even find someone even better. Don't lose hope, it is never too late to find love especially if you are 17 years old. You have your whole ... (read in full...)

I truly love this guy and I cannot believe it has come to this. What do I do?

Q.   Oh God, someone help me. So me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up a month ago and I was devastated. In the month though we have been in constant contact, initiated by him. He even told people we were back together. This guy told me I was his ...

A.   31 July 2009: He is obviously a nasty person and you should try and get over him. Don't contact him or speak to him and see if he changes and tries to contact you instead. You don't need such a person in your life that would say nasty things behind your bac... (read in full...)

Here we are saying we'll wait for each other... What do I do?

Q.   Im going to just let everything out because I want an answer. First off... I can't believe im writing on a site like this.. but from the answers ive seen.. i want to. About 2 years ago.. i randomly added this girl, who lives in germany, she ...

A.   30 July 2009: Keep talking. You should obviously go for it if you are so into her. You will regret it if you don't try because it sounds like you two are having the time of your lives when you are together so wait for her. Tell HER these things not us. B... (read in full...)

What is love really - I just don't want to be hurt again

Q.   I just wonder if most of what we call attraction is just our animal instincts to mate, and we call it love? Does anyone know what love is? I've heard it labelled so many things, anyways, I think I've found a girl im in love with but I am so afraid ...

A.   30 July 2009: If you think you are in love then I would say go for it. If you don't you will be full of regret and that is possibly worse than getting your heart broken. I say this from experience because my heart was broken literally yesterday and lost all... (read in full...)

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