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writes: What should I do if my boyfriend is likely a gay?We're in the relationship for 2 years and I do love him so much.Now I doubt that he's a gay because he doesn't pay attention to me and always goes out with his friends(man). My girl friends've told me before that she thought he's dubious. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007): well, if he likes his (male) friends better, you just have to let him go. if he is gay you can't amke him fall in love with you again. (trust me, i tried) just be there for him and be a good friend for him even though' he is gay. Don't turn in to those people that hate people, just be by his side, ( as a friend)
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reader, becky05 +, writes (11 July 2005):
Just because he spends time with his male friends a lot doesnt mean hes gay!Maybe hes feeling a bit tied down in the relationship just now and wants to spend a bit more time with his friends.In any case, you should ask him if hes happy in your relationship. if he says yes then stop worrying so much!
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reader, jane87 +, writes (10 July 2005):
his probably seeing more of his male friends at the moment because his afraid he might be falling too deep and doesnt want to seem to clingy. just keep letting him know how you feel and maybe just ask him without trying to offend him in anyway just ask him do you fancy me. and see where it goes
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reader, schlottjl  +, writes (10 July 2005):
 Guys tend to prefer spend time with people who are fun to be around. It is not fun to be accused of things when that person does not like your choices. You must relax and be with your friends more to have him choose you. You can't force it.
If he loves you, he will return.
Remember that men and women are supremely different. He is seeking a place to be himself without judgement. You are needy and he knows there is something missing in you that only you can fill. He cannot win.
Do not listen to women explain men. They do not know and have selfish motivations and experiences. Women (and I am one and guilty of this too, at times) spend too much time reading into men. We do this from a female point of view and are therefore usually way off.
Why not apologize to him for being moody and tell him that you think that he should go off with his buddies to recharge often. If he doesn't spend enough time with you, then ask that he schedule so loving time too.
However, if you get two plus nights a week with him that should be enough. If you rarely see him, he isn't gay, he is gone.
Good luck and relax. Be the coolest chick he knows. He will love you for it. Finally, fill your need with self love. Only you can do that. Everyone else will fail you and it is not their fault.
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