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*pendy
writes:ok so i met this guy on plenty of fish..we've been chatting on there for a month now... and went on a date on sunday..he was really nice.. and thought i was soo beautiful.. after the date..he told me..he wants a serious relationship and wants me to be his gf..i sid i will think about it..now hes nice looking..but am not sure am attracted to him or interested in a romantic way..he called me yesterday i missed his calls.. and just rang me and he asked if am avoiding him him..i said ive been busy and he asked if i thought about what he said i said i haven't yet..he sounded a bit down and said he will speak to me some other time..i said ok then bye and i hung up.what does he want?/ cos am SO unlucky with guys..they just hurt me and now i don't think i believe in love anymore and am not sure i want to get with this guy or am even aattracted or interested in him that way.what do i do?? please help me..advice would be great thnx...xxmature answers only please.am 20 and hes 23. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): If you want to go out on another date with him, by all means do. If you don't want to ....DON'T But it is too soon to say you will be his girlfriend and I find it a bit scary that he has jumped the gun in this way. Personally, I wouldn't go out with him again, the way he is approaching this is not normal and his impulsiveness in the matter could be a clear sign that he has some serious issues.
The normal thing to do is to get to know someone, get to know their likes and dislikes, their hobbies, their philosophies, beliefs and future plans and THEN decide if this is someone you could be with long term...I don't have a good feeling about his situation. I think you should date other men for now and just tell him you met someone else (so he thinks there is a man by your side to protect you).
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reader, rose the relationship solver +, writes (20 January 2010):
 he seems to realy like you but if u feel its 2 fast you have to tell him and talk to him. if he thinks ur avoiding him then things might not go the way either of u planned. get him 2 meet u again have a chat see what happens if he wants u then he will wait for u
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 January 2010):
 If you are looking for a date, then you still believe in love somehow. You don't have to mention your past to him. He really does not have to know. Tell him you like to take it slow. It is better to have no relationship than to be with someone you are not attracted to.
I do think that you will be more clear headed when it comes to dates when you are 100% ready for love.
Still give him a chance though, it's hard nowadays to find someone who wants to be your boyfriend.
It is possible he only wants sex.
He sounds a little bit manipulative to me.
There are many good guys out there so don't make him rush you.
Having a good, loving relationship is easier than you think it is.
You just need to learn to screen out bad guys and pay attention to warning signs which might point to a personality problem or cheating problem.
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reader, funkilla  +, writes (19 January 2010):
He's telling you what he wants from you. He wants a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): It's hard to tell...tell him that I want to take it slow...be upfront.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 January 2010):
He seems to be moving a bit too fast, so maybe tell him that although you're flattered, you need to take more time to get to know him face to face before you can say you're his girlfriend. You really need to spend more time getting to know him face to face before anything else.
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