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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met a guy about a month ago and during that time I've grown quite fond of him. He is amazing, and I mean that in every possible way. He is gorgeous, funny, very succesful, kind, everything, he is just amazing. When I think about him I just smile and when he hugs me, I quite literally go weak. When I'm with him, there are no awkward silences. We just click with each other and spend the whole time laughing. We understand everything about each other as both of us are quite successful in our jobs. Sometimes we just look at each other and smile, it's lovely. Although we've only met a few times, it is as if we have known each other for ages, but yet don't really know much about each other. We never talk about our backgrounds or anything, we just sit and have a really good time over a glass of wine, or just go for a walk together and talk about each others days. Thing is though I broke up with my ex boyfriend back in October. He basically led me along for 6 months and I guess finding that out really dented my self esteem and made me a bit shy about meeting a new guy. So tonight, I finally got up the courage to ask this new guy if he was seeing anyone. He said he was. I asked if it was anything serious and he said "not really". He then asked if I was seeing anyone. Obviously my head right now is in a complete mess. I feel as if I have completely fallen for this guy, he is incredible. But now I know there is some other girl - except it's not serious. What should I do? My friends are telling me to hang in there because they reckon this guy and I are going to end up together. What does it mean that he asked if I was seeing anyone? Does that show he's interested? Please help, I don't know what to do. I'm not even sure I can walk away from this - I am starting to develop feelings for this guy.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 Hi,
I imagine the reason he hasnt made a move is because he is seeing someone, probably someone who isnt pushing his buttons like you are.
But if he is a decent chap he wont want to cheat on her or hurt her.
So for now I think you should not do anything other than be a friend for him. Give him some more time, if he really falls for you then he will end it with his own girlfriend. Or after time you could express your feelings but tell him that you won't date him unless he is single.
Good luck.
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