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writes:Can someone tell me what does it mean if you are in a used relationship? And how do you move out or move on out of a relationship like this? Thx...B
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (11 September 2009):
 Being used in a relationship. Gotcha.
Yes, it sounds like you were, maybe not intentionally but that was the result.
He's redeemed himself somewhat in that he's come right out and told you to move on.
You'll get over him gradually while you resume doing things for you. Date others, socialize. Whatever it is you enjoy.
Thanks for the feedback.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all very much for all the different answers, i did not know different countries and differents sayings.... Anyhow, basically what i was saying is that a few of my friends, the 3 i have, say that i'm in a used relationship, that this guy i'm seeing is just using me, of course i dont see it like that. When i want some 'attention' like want to call to say hi or ask him if we can go out, he always replies that his busy and we can chat later, but later these days never come to pass, but when he wants something i have to jump. He sent me a mail this morning that i should go on with my own life and get a good job and be happy on my own, he will be my friend but thats it.... I just dont want to be his friend so i want to move on be myself before he came around, just not sure how to Gdt over him, move on in other words....
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reader, softtouchmale2003  + ♥, writes (11 September 2009):
 One partner is in the relationship for love. The other one is in it for sex, money, drugs, a roof over the head, or whatever.
Therefore, its a one-sided affair. The person who is in it for love is being used by the person who's in it for any other reason but love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): I think what you ment that your partner is using you.
Is it correct?
If yes, it means that you partner using you just for sex, not giving anything in return, or money or out of boredom. You get out of it just by leaving him/her
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reader, quiet-echo + ♥, writes (11 September 2009):
In a relationship that someone else has enjoyed before you? lol
If you are being used in a relationship and are not happy, the answer is simple: you put an end to it.
There is no magic formula the rest of us use.
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reader, Klara  + ♥, writes (11 September 2009):
Did you misunderstand perhaps?
Maybe it was you are being used "in the relationship"
It means that the other person is not into giving back to you, but just 'using' you for their own selfish reasons, - sex, money , insecurity ..it is an expression used quite a bit..
but maybe it is not this one you mean..
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reader, Grymlocke666 +, writes (11 September 2009):
 Well, I too have never heard of a "Used Relationship". If you can, can you give more details about the situation? Is someone being used in the relatioship? And what are they being used for? Is the love still flaming with life? Is it dying with no hopes of ressurection? Is the person being called "used" because they had an ex? Please be more specific.
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reader, icelordess + ♥, writes (11 September 2009):
 I've never heard this expression before. I can only guess. Used like the love has faded? or used like one person is using another? I'm sorry, perhaps the other aunts can shed light on this.
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reader, sexlessintheuk  +, writes (11 September 2009):
 I think it's what we would call "spent" or "over" in the UK, meaning it has naturally run it's course and would be unhealthy to continue.
I suppose it could also mean that someone is using the other, maybe just for sex or for emotional support etc.
Either way, not a good thing.
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